Maybe an Awkward Topic on Sexuality

I know a lot of you out there are a little weird about sex talk, but no worries- this is nothing explicit.

I know there are plenty of situations where people are raising kids. Gay couples, open couples, single parents, heterosexual... yaddah yaddah.

In a bisexual situation- let's say a married man and woman- where a girlfriend (possibly long term) gets thrown into the mix. Do you think this would be harmful to the kid? Cause confusion? If it were you, how would you explain this other woman to your kids? As an aunt/friend? Or would you just be up front with them and explain that it's not always a mommy and daddy raising kids alone?

It's something I've wondered about. I've seen some people do it well with the 'third party' loving the kid near as much as the actual parents.

I guess I'm just wondering what effect do you think it would have on the kid and how would you approach the situation?

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    11/02/13
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    11/06/13
    That makes a lot of sense, judging it by age. And definitely about the judgments that could be made on the child and the family in general, and figuring out how to cope with that and teach the child that everyone is entitled to their opinion is a whole other ballgame. Thanks for the great thoughts here!
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      11/02/13
      Wow. That is a tough one. I have never really thought about that. I guess I would handle it about like Lisa said. Explain the person as a family friend until the child is old enough to figure things out than sit them down and explain it like Lisa said.
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      11/06/13
      I think I agree with you guys. Sounds like the easiest, most rewarding way to do things.
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        11/02/13
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        11/06/13
        My thoughts are more along the lines of an actual relationship, not just sex. And third party may actually live with the parents, so the spending the night would be a given.
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          11/02/13
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          11/06/13
          I wasn't watching The View actually, lol, but I'm interested in this episode now! I'd like to know what viewpoints were put out there. I tend to agree with you... If it's strictly bedroom, no reason for the kids to know. But a relationship... I guess just choose wisely and make sure the other partner is a fixture, like you said, or really weigh the risk/reward.
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            11/03/13
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            11/06/13
            Yes, you're right. It definitely does depend on the depth of the situation. If you're just bringing them to the bedroom, I think it's none of your childrens' business. And certainly easier to bring them in beforehand rather than after, because I coudl see that posing strange questions.
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