Raising a biracial child.
First I just want to say that I LOVE it that this is a topic on here because it is something that should be talked about...and I am thankful that I get to :-)
As someone who is respectful of all races, religions, sex, age, cultures it is hard for me to believe that this is even a thing. But it is. And has much as I hate it, my son fits into a category...a word that I had always disliked defines him before anyone even knows who he is...my son is biracial. I had always thought that I would raise my child as a person who doesn't see race. But this is not possible. The reality of this hit me not long ago when my little family was out walking and this truck drove by us and the kids in the back of the truck started yelling "Cool! Black people, so cool, look Dad, black people!" Me and my husband chuckled about this, but it got me thinking.
My hatred of a term...a word, had made me so focused on wanting to raise my child to not see color that I forgot the world around him will always see it and it is my job to teach him how to respond...not teach him to ignore.
It also made me realize that I was fighting the wrong fight. I don't want a world that doesn't see my son for who he is...color and all. I want a world that doesn't judge him based on it. The best support you can give us Mamma's of biracial kids is to ask us about them...we are not ashamed. We like to talk about our babies...race and all. Realize that we probably face a few different challenges from you, let us talk about it even if you don't understand it. My son is half black and half white...it is what he is, not who he is.
I HATE when people say things like, "I don't see black.. or I don't see hispanic".. I think that's disrespectful.. SEE their color, race, religion and acknowledge it .. as it IS a part of them.. of who they are.. and then like you said.. do NOT judge someone based on that..
I'm white and Irish.. very Irish.. lol.. I'm proud of that.. I don't expect people to come up to me and say "Wow.. neat.. "... But I also know that my good friends? We are aware of each other's heritage.. or race or ethnicity.. and I love my diverse group of friends.
But being Irish is something that helps make me who I am.. SO like you said,.. don't ignore color or race.. embrace it.. embrace their whole being..
We've become so politically correct that instead of teaching people how to ask questions the right way we have scared them into not asking, so they just stare. Which is NOT better! Lol