My SO old friends

So the closer we get to the end of Luke's job here in New mexico the more it looks like we will be going to Colorado for his next job. Colorado is fine with me because it will be in CO Springs and his family is about an hour away from where we would be. How ever, the group of guys that he will be working with are his old friends from other jobs. I haven't meet them, but from what I have heard from stories and comment, they seem like a pretty wild group of guys, this worries me only because of the past few months we have been through, I just hope he doesn't go back to the way he acts around them and then bring it home to me, I also don't like the idea of going to the bars every weekend. I had a short discussion with him about my feelings towards it. He didn't have a lot to say. I'm just hoping things aren't going to go back wards, because at that point I would have to make the decision on what to do with our relationship.

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    04/29/14
    We have been here since January, I feel like he has and I don't care if he goes out for a guys night out on the occasion, but if it came to a point that it was each weekend I would start being a bit upset. I understand everyone needs space and time out with friends and I to love my me time and friends time. But everything will change for me when the baby is here. I know it can be different for a man but I'm just hoping he will see more value in his family than weekends out with the guy's. I also think I worry way to much about things I can not control and I'm working on that!
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      04/29/14
      Well, we can't do anything about what other people choose to do, only how we react to it. And for all that I've been through I've found out one thing for sure. The more you are the type of women that a man WANTS to come home to, the more he comes home.

      I'm not saying to let anyone step all over you. But if it were me moving back to a place where I knew a lot of friends and I felt like I wasn't "allowed" to go hang out with them. I would resent my bf big time.

      You're pregnant with his kid and you're making a decision to move far away to keep your family together. If you've chosen a good man and father, rowdy bar nights will not be an issue. Don't stress about it just yet, your baby is counting on you :)
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        04/29/14
        Beth
        I think you are right to be a little leary and questioning his behavior. I would be nervous about him returning to his old ways as well. I would let him know before you move what your expectations of him are, and be sure to be completely honest. Make it an open discussion and do your best not to be judgmental about it. If he has different ideas about how things should work once you are back, listen to his ideas as well and see if you guys can't reach a compromise. If you can both agree on a certain number of times/month he can go out - or a certain number of hours - or a certain number of drinks... whatever agreement you get to isn't important - it's important that you come to an agreement and have the "rules" set out before you get there.
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          8Theresa Gould
          You have valid concerns. I'm sorry he didn't seem to engage with you when you voiced your concerns. When is your estimated move date?
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          04/29/14
          Our move date is somewhere in the mddle of july
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          8Theresa Gould
          You still have some time. May be give him more time to think about things and bring it up again and ask him for his thoughts/input?
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            04/29/14
            Yes, I will give him sometime to think about what I said and maybe he can put it in perspective.
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