3 year old stepdaughter ):

​The other day I received a picture in a text message of my step daughter from her mom and when I looked at it today I realized there is a massive bruise on her forehead like this bruise takes up a whole side of her head. Now to catch you up when she was 6 months old we picked her up to find cigarette burns on her face and hand, at 1 year her hair was died pink,in February we got a call that her moms boyfriend was being taken to jail for raping a 12 year old,about a month and half ago we picked her up with large brush burn wounds on her arms legs and back we were told she "fell off a treadmill." I just want to go get her and never send her back again but of course that does nothing. We've called cys and had them document everything, that accomplished nothing. We've been to court 5 times and they keep sending her back with her mom. I'm at my wits end, to the point where my life is an anxiety attack worrying about whats going to happen to this poor child. I've been in her life since she was 3 months old (shes 3 now) and want nothing more than to see her happy. She clings to me when I do go pick her up and gets really upset when we tell her she has to go back to her moms house.

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5sarah New Bern, North Carolina
    11/04/13
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    11/04/13
    5sarah
    yeah it sucks but someday she'll be old enough to go to school and say she wants to go live with sarah and daddy, and then they have to take it into consideration. whenever we pick her up we always have to stop and get something to eat because the mother doesn't cook for the kids they're left to fend for themselves so she usually spends a good couple hours eating always has been that way.
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      11/04/13
      OMG I am so sorry to hear that this is happening. Sounds like CPS is not doing their job. Have you contacted the actual police? Not sure how it all works but don't they have a division that specializes in this? Maybe contact your local CASA and see if they can offer advice? Have you spoken with a lawyer?
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      11/04/13
      5sarah
      the actual police around here call that a "civil issue" and were in the middle of a huge custody battle over it we are supposed to have her every other week for a week but haven't been allowed to pick her up in almost a month because the mother won't let us have her and like i said the pa cops are about as useless as tits on a boar hog.
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        11/04/13
        I've seen this happen with friends first hand and I'm in constant SHOCK how little Child Services actually DO... and how difficult it is to get a child from a parent that is harming them... you would think it's the easiest thing in the world. it's not and by the time you get that child out of there, the damage is done.

        My advice to you, is to (while you go through the system) stay focused on your time with her and what you can bring to her life when she's with you.. Maybe see if you can get her more time.. make friendly with the birth mom and ask for an extra night or more time.. it sounds as though she wouldn't be against giving up the time.. unless she's spiteful and jealous..
        Love her, feed her, play with her and hold her and equip her with confidence and words so that when it's time to speak out, she can with self esteem and without fear. Knowing that you are on her side and she has a safe place to go, will make all the difference. Be her soft place. She doesn't know any different right now with her mom and kids endure and can endure so much.. You're doing good by her,... follow the rules, keep at the door of the system and eventually they will hear you.. document everything and good luck and God bless.
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        11/04/13
        5sarah
        Its nice to know I'm not the only person who deals with this
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          11/05/13
          Amanda Hurley
          I am so sorry. I know that CPS don't know what they are doing half the time. I have seen them pull kids out of good homes, and I have seen them leave children in bad. All I can suggest to try and find someone who is a child advocate and see if they can help. Maybe a therapist or a counselor.
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          About sarah
          Born: Westfield, New York
          Current: New Bern, North Carolina
          Birth: April 30
          On Moms.com since: Oct 30, 2013
          I am 21 and have one child of my own plus my step kids.