3 year old stepdaughter ):
The other day I received a picture in a text message of my step daughter from her mom and when I looked at it today I realized there is a massive bruise on her forehead like this bruise takes up a whole side of her head. Now to catch you up when she was 6 months old we picked her up to find cigarette burns on her face and hand, at 1 year her hair was died pink,in February we got a call that her moms boyfriend was being taken to jail for raping a 12 year old,about a month and half ago we picked her up with large brush burn wounds on her arms legs and back we were told she "fell off a treadmill." I just want to go get her and never send her back again but of course that does nothing. We've called cys and had them document everything, that accomplished nothing. We've been to court 5 times and they keep sending her back with her mom. I'm at my wits end, to the point where my life is an anxiety attack worrying about whats going to happen to this poor child. I've been in her life since she was 3 months old (shes 3 now) and want nothing more than to see her happy. She clings to me when I do go pick her up and gets really upset when we tell her she has to go back to her moms house.
My advice to you, is to (while you go through the system) stay focused on your time with her and what you can bring to her life when she's with you.. Maybe see if you can get her more time.. make friendly with the birth mom and ask for an extra night or more time.. it sounds as though she wouldn't be against giving up the time.. unless she's spiteful and jealous..
Love her, feed her, play with her and hold her and equip her with confidence and words so that when it's time to speak out, she can with self esteem and without fear. Knowing that you are on her side and she has a safe place to go, will make all the difference. Be her soft place. She doesn't know any different right now with her mom and kids endure and can endure so much.. You're doing good by her,... follow the rules, keep at the door of the system and eventually they will hear you.. document everything and good luck and God bless.