"First time moms are lost, lonely and bewildered for the first year after baby"...

I read this this morning... and to an extent I agree... I didn't realize it all until later.. Hindsight is awesome...

I remember someone asking me if I was going to have a second.. and I said yes, I wanted a second one sooner than later and I described to her that I wanted to "stay in the fog"... Meaning... I knew that once the "fog" as I called it lifted... and I was no longer tied to naps, bottles, nursing, pacifiers, etc.. that once I felt some "freedom" from that... I didn't think I would want to go back to it...

Don't get me wrong.. I am not insinuating the "fog" to be a bad place.. it was just... hazy... foggy... sleepy... To be more accurate... I was in a zone... A new baby zone... and I was totally STUNNED by how much work it really was... and not just the physical part of diapers and laundry and rocking a colicky baby to sleep, but the heart attention.. my constant worry and concern and fear that I was going to break the baby...

It does lift... but never really goes away.. you just aren't taken over by it totally...

Anyone else?? Here's the link to the article...

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2487702…

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Moms Expertise
11/06/13
Meg! The best part is yet to come!! And while you're smack dab in it... You don't think of how one day u won't be!! It's hindsight.. U look back and think man.. I was a bit of a mess but it is beautiful and amazing and messy and exhausting and the best time of your life. But do was my first college boyfriend that had tattoos and drank too much and drive a motorcycle. It was intense and awesome but I wouldn't go back if u paid me. Lol
I loved every minute of it. Don't listen to us!! We are hardened hags that have seen some shit (literally and figuratively)... And none of us would change it or do it differently. But it does take a certain zone of mind and once you're out. You're out!!!
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Born: Novato, California
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Birth: May 28
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We live in Los Angeles, CA. I'm a writer, comedian, actor and single mom of two. Parenting is hard. I try to keep a sense of humor about it all and find the find the funny... in what is most likely NOT funny (i.e. boogers, meltdowns, homework, etc.).