Help! My daughter is a bully!
So my daughter's school just called to inform us that my 5 year old daughter, Ocea, has broken someones lunchbox and we need to pay for it. At the parent teacher conference , the teacher told us that Ocea is aggressive with boys and has had issues with personal bubbles regarding both boys and girls. We've done time outs, taking privileges, and even spanking although that's not our first choice by any means. Nothing has worked. We've had minor incidences at home but nothing like what she does at school. How do I discipline my daughter so she's not a bully anymore?
What action can you take now?
1. monitor media consumption: does she become more aggressive after playing certain video games or watching particular movies?
2. model empathy- consciously model kinder, gentler behavior for you daughter to copy. And make sure the kids and adults your daughter hangs around are those who appropriate models as well.
3. Get dad involved. kids whose dads were positively involved in their care were found more empathic.
4. Listen carefully to your daughter and try to gather facts. Find the ways to "do good" -community service, food drives, etc.