My husband is about to become a hunter

My husband isn't a hunter yet, but he's about to be. Now that we have finally made it back to Virginia (YAY!) and are looking for a house with land, he wants to use the forests here to go hunting.

He won't be doing it only for sport, but we plan to save the meat (I imagine it'll be mostly deer) for food because our goal is very much to get 'off the grid.' A garden, some chickens for eggs, maybe a milk cow, and some milk goats... I'm sure I'll still go to the store for stuff too, but I'd like to do what I can.

My husband is also going to start building the forge he's been looking forward to for YEARS once we get our house. He's a big sword nut and wants to make all sorts of weapons and armor... And he's going to use the skin from the animals to make leather for the handles and sheaths and stuff. (He's also determined to have a bear cloak, but I donno how I feel about that, lol.) We might even try to sell a little leather products at the festivals around here, who knows. I'm just glad he's going to be green about it and use every bit he can. He can even use the bone in stuff.

Hunting is a kind of strange habit to me, but I'm going to support him in doing it, especially since it'll help fund his hobbies 'til he starts making money from it.

He says he probably wants to start with a rifle which should be a piece of cake for him since he just got out of the Marine Corps and was an expert shot every time he tested. But, after that he wants to get into bow hunting and maybe try using traps too.

I'm hoping we can buy a big deep freezer where we can store the meat and because I LOVE to freezer cook. So much easier to have food already or mostly prepared ready to go. With my little side by side fridge/freezer in Cali I can only fit so much, especially if it's in a pan... but with a big deep freezer and him hunting... I can get one of those big store cards like Sam's Club, buy in bulk, make huge quantities and save a TON.

I'm really looking forward to my little country life. I've been so excited to be able to DRINK THE WATER here... May sound silly, but base water was quite literally toxic. I feel like I can breathe the air... I love all the green grass and the wildlife and the trees. I can't wait to have a lil plot of land where I can hang up my clothes to dry in the country breeze. Needless to say, I'm happy to be back. California just wasn't my style, at least not SoCal. Feels good. :) :)

(By the way, I'll post about the trip soon too if you ladies are interested... Got some crazy pics of the tornado damage in Arkansas. It was one serious adventure!)

I think hunting will be a fun hobby for my husband... Give him alone time, let him blow off some steam... Plus he LOVES the forests and wildlife, so he should be a happy camper if he can go spend some nice quiet hours there. He's pretty patient too, so I think it'll be nice for him.

What about you ladies?
Hunter husbands? What do they hunt? For sport or food or something else?

How do you feel about it?

Do YOU hunt with him? Or by yourself even?

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    Melissa Middleton
    My husband hunts for the food, not for sport--he and I do not agree with sport hunting. I would never eat a deer, but that is just me. I am from NoCal and now live in VA. My husband was in the National Guard. I will never go hunting because if I shot an animal, I would cry. And, I am the type to shout, "Run deer, run!" My hubby also hunts with a friend, which is safer. We also garden and freeze or can what we grow. NoCal is a bit like Southwest Virginia, but I still miss home, some shopping centers, and my old friends and family...also my old professors and the collegiate debate team. I was born in the city (moved to the country part of Cali when I was 17) but I enjoy country life. I can breathe better and it is peaceful. I want my kids to grow up in the country as well. I still don't have great friends here. However, I still enjoy it.

    What area are you moving to, if you don't mind me asking?
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    05/02/14
    We're staying with family in Southwest VA right now (which is great, we've missed them!) while we buy a house... I'm looking at one in Rogersville, TN so still in the same close area. :) I've heard NoCal is nice, but we never went to visit while I was in SoCal.
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    05/03/14
    Melissa Middleton
    We're in Pennington Gap, a dying town. I want to move closer to my son's doctors, most of them are in Kingsport, TN, but I also like the quietness of this area. I like Norton, but I get tired of all the snow...I like everything about this area, minus the snow and a few other things--but it is a great place to raise kids.
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      I'm really excited for it! I feel like now that military life has come to an end... freedom and 'real' life is finally starting for us! Fingers crossed that all works out well. :)
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        OMG... LOL.. This is where I think my Southern California Girl ways are coming into play and you all will laugh at me as I fit the stereo type...

        Hunting appalls me.. of any kind.. sport especially.. but even for food... ugh.. HOWEVER.. I realize and am not naive.. I GET that it's a life style and how some people were raised.. My ex husbands step dad.. whom I'm still close with.. he hunts duck and we have a playful rivalry about it.. and no.. my kids will not learn to hunt duck.. ever.. BUT can learn to shoot..That's fun! lol

        I'm no preacher of my beliefs.. well.. I am.. but not on this.. it's a losing battle.. but..

        Do YOU think that hunting is acceptable depending on where and how you were raised? Do you all have the California hippy girl stereo type in your head yet? Lol..
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        Actually, Jessica, I used to be pretty against it myself, believe it or not... And I was born and raised in Southwest VA where it seems EVERYBODY hunts (though not anyone in my family 'til now that I know of)

        However, I understand my husband wants to do it and I'll support him, as long as he uses it for food and uses the rest of the materials. My thoughts with that are- I eat chicken and steak from the grocery store. And as much as I'd like to let my inner hippie bleed out and buy free range animals that were treated right, I can also be kind of cheap. I just buy regular meat... And I KNOW those animals have a crappy life.

        On the way to VA, I drove by I guess what was a cattle ranch in Texas (it had cows and a beef sign...) And I was really sad about it, seeing them all crammed together in these lots, knowing they were going to be slaughtered. :( (Keep in mind, I used to be a vegan too...)

        Anyway, my thoughts with the deer hunting is that at least these deer get to have a happy life in the wild. I'm not supporting crazy slaughterhouses. And deer hunting here is beneficial (assuming there are still people here at least) because they overpopulate and starve to death... So it's actually encouraged.

        So, as long as my husband is using it for food. And is getting materials in a way he knows and understands rather than buying leather from who knows where... I'm okay with it. :) (And I have many Buddhist beliefs so while I don't even kill ants, I'm trying to work on that acceptance of other people fully... Which by the way is HARD for me sometimes. I'm working on it though)

        I don't think it's just a Cali stereotype. I know lots of people with that outlook and get where you're coming from.
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        Melissa Middleton
        I'm from Cali. ;) LOL ...born and raised.
        My hubby explained to me that it is less inhumane than slaughterhouses. I am an animal lover, I do not want to see an animal killed, but I also eat meat. And by me going to the store and purchasing chicken or a roast, isn't that supporting slaughterhouses by buying their meat?
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        05/03/14
        Yes. Agreed. And I'm well aware of my contradiction. Lol.
        I m not a vegetarian but I don't eat meat often. And when we do its steak tacos or hamburgers and I will only buy meat from whole foods. That's grass fed, free range etc. but yes.. Still hypocritical. I'm aware.

        I get that people want to hunt. And so I'm not judging anyone. But personally, I couldn't pull a trigger at a deer. I wouldn't eat deer meat anyway so it's a moot point.

        I'm not in any picket line or anything. Lol. Just grew up in non hunting environment. When you grow up near the city or beaches you just grow up with certain things that just never occur to you.
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        Melissa Middleton
        I don't eat meat often, either. I actually prefer fruits and veggies more. LOL...But, I do like fish and shrimp A LOT! I could not as well, pull a trigger on an animal.
        He has asked me several times to come, more jokingly, and I keep saying no. I think it has to do with the fact that animals come up to me, even deer. When I was in Cali, I had a deer follow me home. My sister could not stop laughing. Every time I went for a walk, something would follow me home. A coyote pup followed me all the way to the bus stop. And the ducks at the college campus, followed me to class--that was a little embarrassing. I didn't even have food on me.
        And last year, a deer came up to me at a park, but would not go near my husband. Hehe :D
        I think I am a Dr. Dolittle when it comes to animals; it's weird but cool.
        I wish he wouldn't hunt, honestly, but it is not my place to tell him he can't. However, we do have an agreement: If we ever buy land, he is not allowed to hunt on it. I told him I was going to make it an animal sanctuary and that no animals will be harmed/killed on it. Lol :)

        I grew up close to beaches and in the city in Cali, so I understand. My family are not hunters, either. We are the organic gardening type.
        I miss watching surfers/surfing. :'( They don't have it out here!
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        05/05/14
        Hehe that is too cool! A coyote pup? How neat! I would've wanted to take it home with me, lol... I can normally get along with animals pretty well but the only things weird that have followed me were a trail of spiders and a crow/raven/blackbird of some sort. Thankfully not simultaneously, because that would be spooky.
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        Melissa Middleton
        I wish we had free range out here.
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        05/05/14
        I hope we can find some farmers around here who sell free range at some point. And lol at not wanting to eat deer meat. I BAWLED the first time I did because I was sort of 'tricked'. I thought it was beef jerky and then the cook told me and... No. Just no. I was very much a kid and was pretty fond of Bambi, lol.
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          05/02/14
          My husband is addicted to hunting!! Him and I deer hunt every. single. day! of deer season. We hunt for for the meat. Deer burgers and deer jerky is soo good! I wont go by myself, I stay with my husband we have a lot of wild hogs and have had bear on our trail camera. During bow season I carry a pistol for that reason.
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          05/02/14
          Also I help him gut the deer and if he quarters it up by himself I will also help do that.
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            05/02/14
            3Lin White
            I never had deer meat would like to try it
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            05/02/14
            I was tricked into eating it the first time I ever did and I cried... Lol. Like I ate Bambi. But it's delicious, haha!
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              05/03/14
              Melissa Middleton
              As I said before, my hubby does hunt. I dislike it; however, I eat meat and the slaughter houses are far more inhumane than killing an animal in the wild for meat. When my hubby explained this to me, I understood it. Why condemn someone for hunting for food, yet go to the grocery store and buy a pack of chicken (I mean, how else does that animal get into the freezer section)? And that is exactly what I was doing, condemning someone. It almost made me a hypocrite.
              I dislike hunting, but I won't condemn it or say it is bad when I go the store and purchase meat myself. That animal was slaughtered as well. It lived life in cramped quarters so it would become fat faster to be placed on freezer shelves for us to purchase. At least the animals in the wild lived a good life, free to roam. Animals on the meat market, however, do not (unless they are free range, but a majority aren't--and they are still slaughtered).
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                05/04/14
                I have mixed feelings about hunting. I don't agree with doing it for sport. Doing it for food is okay. I am just too much of an animal lover to harm anything. I would be the one to try to feed them :)
                Getting away and having alone time would be good for your husband. Everyone needs that. Maybe he can just sit in the woods and watch the animals! Yeah, that's the ticket!!
                Country life is definitely a lot more laid back and relaxing than that of the city. I think everyone should at least try it in their lifetime.
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