Hardest thing about being a mom?

I think the hardest part of being a mother is that someday I will have to explain to Charlie that there are just some bad people in this world. There are people who hurt animals, people who hurt people, people who hurt themselves. I won't know how to explain it. The rest of it comes with the territory. It's all hard.. but explaining why God made us all good and it didn't stick for some? That's really hard for me.

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    05/02/14
    Beth
    There are so many tough topics that we will have to address with our children. It sounds like you are religious, so I would just explain to Charlie that even though God made us good, he also gave us free will and some people choose not to act the way God wants us to.
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      See. we are Christians and I have a huge problem with the "born sinners"thing.. I can't look at my baby girl at 5 and tell her she's a sinner and has to be better..

      I tell them that we don't earn God's love.. we are BORN with it.. in HIS eyes.. We ARE loved, We ARE beautiful, We ARE good.. it's not with a "If".. after it..

      You can choose to accept God's love or not.. Accepting God's love and Grace then you will work hard to STAY a good person.. and move forward and share this.. If you turn against his love.. then you get lost and can do bad things..

      My kids were not born sinners.. they were born out of love and beauty ..

      I know... you're right Alissa- a religion post never goes well.. ever.. lol.. BUT.. the born sinners thing got me..
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      Jessica Garvin I think that "born" was the wrong word choice. As a believer I am often confused, and I think that's okay but I confused myself more because I'm confused..lol somehow that makes sense in my head.

      For example. I'm baptizing my son. What sins am I washing away? Non right? Pooping on mom is not a sin (though it should be, lol). I don't want this to get heated. I am every one's sister in Christ. Given the expertise question, that's what I find is the hardest part. I don't care that I've lost sleep. I'll never sleep good again. I don't care that I haven't lost baby weight, who cares? All of it comes with the territory, and so does this. But this is what I find the hardest so far.
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      AlissaYeah. you're right.. I think one of the best things about religion and the bible is that it's up for interpretation.. I have a from and deep respect for people and what they believe in.. I don't care of someone believe in Jesus or not.. Are they good people? Are they kind?

      AS for baptizing.. agreed... We see it differently.. Less "washing away sin".. more "cleansing of the soul"... :)

      I actually LOVE religion talks and debates.. LOVE.. but I don't take it personally if someone doesn't believe the way I want them to.. lol.. I'm fascinated by other people beliefs and what drives them.. and it's ironic.. a LOT of the strict catholics I know.. are some the of the meanest people I have ever met.. lol

      Anywhosky.. Have a great day!!!!
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      lol! I was raised Catholic but haven't practiced in a very long time. As soon as Charlie was born I went right down to the Catholic church and talked to the priest about becoming a member of the church. I was completely honest. This is me, this is my son. His father does not practice organized religion. We are not married.

      I never heard from the priest (lol wow). That's neither here nor there. I don't care what people believe but as parents, I have a big belief that it's our duty to lay the options out for our kids and let them decide.

      Have a great day Jessica :)
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      05/02/14
      I know that sin entered the world through Adam, I don't want to get off into that because if you do not believe that a person can live and by some mysterious way, if you watch them grow you will not have to teach them how to sin, it is in their nature. For all have sinned and come short of the glory of GOD, we all need his love and grace, mercy and free gift of salvation, everything that we have belongs to HIM, even LOVE, if he withheld it from us we could not even LOVE anything, including our precious children GOD is awesome!
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        05/02/14
        My son asked me one day why people are bad... and I told him I didn't have a good answer.. I told him maybe they had mean parents or something is wrong in their brain or something and HE said, "maybe we need evil so we are able to recognize good".

        He was 8 when he said this and it's the best explanation I could find..
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          05/02/14
          Bravo kiddo! And I agree.. both is a balance. But it scares me when the day comes that he sees something. I hoping I can be one of these moms that catches it and asks what he thinks instead of shoving my beliefs down his throat.

          When my niece was little I watched her A LOT. I was amazed at how many good things she did on her own even though her home life was not the best. That's why I believe that under an umbrella we start out good.
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            05/02/14
            I think what's amazing to me.. that I've noticed with my kids.. is that they inherently.. see good.. they don't LOOK for bad.. it's not in their nature.. my kids are so confused my mean kids and bad people.. they just don't get it and I hope they stay that way..

            I know what you mean.. you can't protect them forever and protecting them later means telling them the truth about the world and not all of it is good.. BUT.. I show them pictures of the people that save the whales and dolphins and the animal lovers and the charities and the people in africa and Turkey.. the people looking out for the less fortunate.. that's God.. In THEM..
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              05/02/14
              I have four children and the hardest thing about being a mom is me surviving what does not kill them if you know what I mean. Living in fear!, trying to shield them from the world never works, and keeping them sedated and medicated to life does the same harm , I can't help but feel a bit sorry for today's child they are faced with challenges that I never even thought about as a child; but they have truly been raised up for such a time as this!
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                05/02/14
                That's very true lily, I think women are so strong today but kids do have to deal with a whole new set of issues that we never had to! Sure, we had to be aware of strangers, careful when walking home from school, not give our our name etc etc etc... but now if a kid has a cell phone so mom can get in touch, predators can find a kid through that very phone. It's insane! I guess we just never stop learning and never stop passing that knowledge on to our kids.
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