I NEED SOME ADVICE
I am SICK and TIRED of being treated like trash by the father of my child. I stay constantly stressed out because of the way he speaks to me. We got in an argument the other day because he thinks that two diaper boxes of clothes is enough for the baby!! And on top of that, the stuff that I do have, he has contributed to none of it! He is always talking about things that he wants for himself and spending all kinds of money on his vehicle, but I never hear him say anything about what he wants to do for his son.... And if I bring it up I get cussed and yelled at and called stupid! Last night he told me, and I quote, "I will buy the baby stuff when I decide to do it. And when I do, it won't be to make you happy, it will be because I wanted to do it. And if you don't shut the f%$& up about it, I'm never gonna buy anything." That hurt my feelings SO bad. I moved away to Alabama where my mom lives, but I am packing up my things and moving back to my home town tomorrow. I feel like I am stupid for doing this, but I love him and I'm only hoping he will get better. I won't be living with him, however that's something I would be wanting to do once it got closer to me having the baby... but I don't want our son to hear him talking to me like that! EVER! He has also told me he wants a DNA test. He said he wasn't signing a birth certificate until he knew the baby was his... He KNOWS that the baby is his. I think he is just trying to separate himself from it and is hoping that the baby is not his. I found out today that a DNA test costs $525. I told him if he wanted to pay that he could, but I wasn't paying a dime of it. And I also told him if he didn't sign the certificate when the baby was born, that the baby would not have his last name. Also if he doesn't sign the certificate, he has no rights! So I told him that if he wanted to he could sign a paper which would take away EVERY RIGHT as the father. He would not be legally obligated to pay for ANYTHING. He said he didn't want to do that and he wanted to take care of the baby.... HE'S MESSED UP IN THE HEAD... WHAT DO I DO!?
Hopefully he'll realize that he's missing out on his sons life and decide to be supportive for him, but if he can't be good to you then you don't need to put up with that.
He is the problem, not you. Besides, this child is going to have a wonderful and amazing mother. Please keep telling yourself this.
The way he treats you infuriates me so.