Thoughts & fears of planning & pregnancy
I really hope I can start trying to get pregnant next year after my boyfriend moves here. But, I think the scariest thing for me will be making sure the baby will be healthy since my daughter was born with so many health problems. DiGeorge Syndrome, Tet of fallot, pulmonary atresia, asthma.. (Heart, lungs, muscles, ect). First open heart surgey at 6 months old.. second at 9 months. :/ It was just a horrible thing to go through. Very scary!
The doctor did 4 ultrasounds when I was pregnant too. They still didn't see the missing heart valve! (ugh)
I guess that's why I always kept myself distant from serious relationships and didn't think about having any other kids until now.. I was always so worried about her. Now, I think she is doing so great it's a good time to start planning before I get too old. Ahem. hehe
Anyone else had any problems with a pregnancy?
What are some of your fears..
I recently had a miscarriage after 3.5 years of trying to conceive and have been a little squeamish about trying again, so we're not actively trying just not preventing for now.
I hope all goes well with this next pregnancy, because there all different as I'm sure you know. Keep your chin up and don't let your fears get in your way. Experience them, then kick them to the curb. I've always found fear to be something to be overcome.
Sorry if that sounds harsh.
I really do understand to some VERY small degree, as I've never had such complex complications.
My fears are going through another miscarriage, having an unhealthy baby, SIDS, just about everything. I just keep telling myself it will be worth it. It will ALWAYS be worth it and things work themselves out, one way or another.
I really want to experience things other moms with healthy babies do.. Like breastfeeding or feeding from the bottle and not having to feel my baby through a tube in her nose then tummy. Or worrying her heart is going to give up and she will just stop breathing. I was told over and over to prepare myself because my daughter wasn't going to make it. Almost daily for awhile. She had her last rights read to her quite a few times. It was terrifying. I don't regret a moment with my daughter. Don't get me wrong. It was an experience I will always remember. She is and always will be my hero. She is very brave and just a wonderful girl. I just really want to experience a healthy child. I think it'd be so fun! No meds or surgeries or heart monitors. Just enjoying that will be bliss.