Bad Parent??

Last weekend, my oldest was sick, and I waited a day to see if she was going to get better before making an appointment. I didn't know if it was serious enough to make an appointment, or if it was going to get better on its own like it normally does.
So, my MIL took her so I could get a nap in before my youngest woke up for the morning. Apparently, my MIL and my husband were talking on FB and she started going off, and he agreed with her! Somehow, I'm a bad mother because I waited a day to make an appointment to make sure it was bad enough to go. I was already giving her children's Tylenol, giving her cold baths to bring down her fever, and lots of fluids. The same thing they would've told me at the doctor's office since she hadn't had her fever very long!
My husband has always backed his mother up though, no matter what.

Has anyone accused you of being a bad parent when you weren't doing actually doing something wrong?

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05/04/14
Thank you. And, she wouldn't have even taken her if I hadn't said that after she left I was going to put her in bed. She needed to try to get some rest. Rest helps. My oldest is one of those kids that she doesn't act sick when she is. She never has, even as a baby she acted normal. So when she's REALLY sick, it takes forever for her to get better. The only reason my MIL had to come over was because my husband was at work and he had the car. I was going to take her to ER because her fever wouldn't stay down. But, my MIL talked me out of it, then wanted to talk crap about me because I didn't make an appointment right away and she was "really worried about her. She might have an upper respiratory infection." Those were her exact words to my husband!
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05/04/14
Yes. She got better 2 days before her birthday party thankfully! Her party was yesterday. She had ways of ruining that too. Apparently the bakery called to double check the type of icing. I don't have a phone so I had to use my MIL's number. It was supposed to be buttercream. Well, My husband picked the cake up and it was whipped icing. Come to find out my step-SIL can't have buttercream icing, it makes her sick, and she lives with my MIL right now.
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    05/05/14
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    I wish it were that simple. My MIL and I have had problems in the past. I technically have a protection order against her for myself and my girls until July 2015. But, her not seeing my kids threatened to ruin my marriage. So, I gave in. She's always trying to run our lives. I love my husband unconditionally, and that will never change. But, I don't know how much more of this I can take. If it weren't for his mom, most of our problems would never have happened.
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    I's okay. I know how to deal with it now. After being around her almost non-stop for 4 years, I've learned to just brush it off and hold my tongue. I don't know how much longer I can though. My mom has offered for the girls and I to move in with her. I know I can get a job no problem there, and with her not working I would have a free sitter until I can afford to put them in preschool. That's just a BIG decision to make to leave my hubby. It's definitely not something I'm prepared to do at the moment.
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      a mother to two beautiful girls, and a wife to a great man that I've been with for almost 6 years (married for 1 year). I'm a SAHM and love being home to spend time with my little girls.