VERY mixed feelings about this post...

Mamas.. please read and weigh in. I understand this post to chat about being there for your baby, starting too young at the CIO method.. but goodness, this seems like an extreme stretch in her verb'age and making Mommas who do do CIO feel like crap... What say you Mommas?

http://www.alternative-mama.com/a-letter-from-a-s…

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    11/07/13
    I just think her line of thinking is a little extreme.. these little babes do need a schedule, they will turn into little people, and then teens and then adults.. is she going to let them cry and run into her room forever? It makes Moms who do CIO the right way seem like monsters, and it's the last thing they are... I hate when Moms are "my way or it's neglect or awful parenting.." SAYS WHO! My line of thinking is.. no Mom is the same, no family is the same, no child is the same.. what works for one, doesn't work for another.. the judging has got to stop.
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      Okay first thought that cam to my mind was "What the heck did I just read?" lol I get what she is trying to say but come on lets be real here when my little guy would cry is tiny little butt off I went down the checklist: Is he dirty, is he hungry, does he want to be held or play? If nothing worked I would lay him back down, close the door, make sure the baby monitor was still on and wait. Once he was quiet, I would look in on him and head to bed.
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          8Theresa Gould
          What she wrote in the post could have been me writing it back when we brought our firstborn home. When we did allow her to cry it out. It seemed like the most unnatural thing to me/us. I never did it again because it went against my every motherly instinct. I don't agree that infants need to cry it out or be made to be on a schedule. Routine yes, but not a schedule and not to sleep through the night for the parents convenience. Parenting isn't convenient. Why is every one in such a hurry to make their babies grow up and sleep through the night so early on when their little tummies can only hold so much and they need to be fed often to grow, including through the night? There's a time and a place to cry it out sometimes but not until a baby is older. Also, babies spend nine months in the womb and desire to be with their mother. I don't know how many times my husband would try to calm one of ours down but all they wanted was me. Completely calm when I'd take them. So I could take showers etc, we would take one of my nighties or tops with my scent and put it on my husband's shoulder or in front of baby's face while they were sleeping to let them know I wasn't far away. I didn't think the lady who wrote the article was a nut ball. Nor did I feel she was judging. I took it to be more from her personal experience and how she felt her baby felt when she used the cry it out method. I didn't read anything else on the site to get to know her parenting philosophies.
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          11/08/13
          I see your view point completely, Theresa.. I do. But the way she wrote.. I think made other Moms who had it work for them, or even tried it out... feel like she thinks they think lesser of their children than she does of hers? Does that make sense? Just because a Mom tries something different from another Mom, doesn't mean it's bad.

          I am sure some parents try to get into routines sooner than others.. but I say to each their own.. I just think the way she wrote it was a bit mean and not open to any other view point.
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          8Theresa Gould
          I think sometimes we moms can be a tad sensitive to other parenting or even schooling philosophies. So if some cry it out moms took the post the wrong way, then that's with them, but they shouldn't judge this woman or think she's being mean based on her blog post. She was writing from her experience about the way she felt her baby saw the crying out method is how I took it. See where I'm coming from?

          Every parent makes their decisions based on what they feel is right at the time, but lots of time what we thought was right can be wrong because we do not do everything perfectly from the start. We live and learn and go on from there. It's all we can do.
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