Oh Heck no!
Our neighbor.. whom I adore.. and have become pretty neighborly with.. she has a 4 year old son.. Her mom lives across the way in our same apartment complex.. Everyone is great..
Her SON.. however.. is pretty funny and nice but FOUR... so he can still throw his fits or yell and cry when it's time to go in and the big kids are still playing..
HOWEvER.. He talks back to his mom and worse.. his Gramma.. and his mom handles it, but she does it in the soft, "no no.. " and then walks him inside for a 4 minute time out.. but he keeps doing it.. Yesterday his Gramma said, "He needs to have shoes on.. the workmen were here today and I'm not sure if they cleaned up completely".. Well her grandson did NOT like that and he put up his hand to her and said, "No.. You go away.. I don't like shoes.. you go.. "
He didn't want to put shoes on and his gramma wanted him to (gramma is also the apartment manager.. )...
So his mom walked him inside and both the gramma and I looked at each other like "Oh Heck no"!
For me.. you gotta nip that in the bud.. you have to get to them and look them straight in the eye in a hard voice and tell them NO WAY do they talk to an adult like that..
Even my kids look at him like "ohhhh.. you gonna get it.. lol".. they know it was unacceptable... And you have to take care of it NOW.. no warnings.. nip it..
This incident reminds me of how Erik parents his son. He's gotten better, thankfully or else I wouldn't be with him, but his son used to be so incredibly disrespectful to me. Erik would tell me that I'm over reacting, that I take it too personal. Erik's mom also said that 13 year old boys are all rude. Such a generalization, since my friend's son who is 13 is not rude like that & if he was, his mom would let him have it.