Confused

Let me start from the beginning here. My parents divorced in 1989. Both remarried and my mom divorced her second husband somewhere between 1999-2001. My dad really wasn't part of our lives. We went 24 years without seeing him. We got a few phone calls over the years (maybe 20 total) around 2006 he found me on Facebook. I talked to him and my other sisters a few times. We exchanged phone numbers and I was getting to know the girls. Their mom had a problem with it so we stopped talking. Well my dad and their mom divorced at the beginning of the year and he moved back to louisiana. Now him and my mom are back together. It's definitely a lot to take in. He is trying to run my life. I am 30 years pls and married. He treats me like a kid. He calls my work everyday and talks to my boss to make sure I am there. My boss told me this yesterday. If I go visit my mother-in-law he calls her to make sure it's ok I go there and asks her how long I can stay there for. Right now my husband and I are living with my parents until we finish remodeling our house. I also have a cat and 2 baby turtles. My mom said she didn't want me to leave the turtles outside because of stray animals so we have them in the laundry room. They can't get out of the aquarium I have them in and last night one of them came up missing. My dad says she got out. There is no way. He told me he wants the turtles outside right before my female came up missing. I have talked to my mom about the whole situation and she says she is happy. I feel as long as she is happy that's all that matters, but he has been lying to her about a lot. And he also can't keep a job. He has been here 2 months and has had 4 jobs since. I'm sorry this post is so long I just had to get that off my mind. What should I do? Should I talk to her again or just leave it alone? She says she is happy but she doesn't seem like she is.

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    05/06/14
    Oh let me also add both my parents are on antidepressants and are hardly ever in their right mind.
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      05/06/14
      Beth
      I would do what you can to get yourself out of that situation. Maybe have a chat with your mom and let her know you don't think he is going to make her happy and encourage her to really think about why she is trying to have a relationship with him again. She's an adult, so she will make the decision on her own and you'll need to respect it, but I think letting her know your thoughts on their relationship in a calm, non-accusatory way might not be a bad idea.
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        05/06/14
        Wow that's a rough situation. You should try to have a talk with them, and also try telling him your a grown up and don't need to be checked on all the time.
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          05/06/14
          Grab your husband and take it up with your dad. (Husband for support). If your mom is there, so be it, but it needs to be taken up with your dad. Especially him controlling you.
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            05/06/14
            Beth I do respect her decision to be with him. I really do want to know him. But I do not want him trying to run my life. He doesn't do it to my brother or sister. I am the second oldest of his 6 children. Me and my younger sister are for him and my mom. The other girls are for other women and my brother is for my mom. His dad is my mom's second husband. Which we never see him either. He was the one that raised all 3 of my mom's children me included. All these years it's just been my mom. I told her that I would love to get to know my dad again and I think she should get to know him again too before marrying him again. She says she still loves him. I can believe that, but I can't believe she is falling for all his lies. She is the one that pointed out all the lies in the first place. That's why I don't think she is happy. I think she just is tired of being alone. I know I can't make her not be with him, but there has to be something to open her eyes.
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