How do you all do it that have husband's that travel?

I don't know how you moms with husband's who travel a lot do it. Mine is unemployed and has been home for the past two months. He's gone today to visit his two aunts with his mom and brother in Milwaukee, WI. I miss him! How do you do it?

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8Theresa GouldChicago, Illinois
    11/08/13
    My husband is gone basically every other weekend or more from August-April. He is a hockey coach for an elite team that travels all over the country...did I mention they also practice 3 times a week late evenings AFTER his day job? It is a challenge. I have been used to the lifestyle since we've been together since he was a player , but add our now first born to the mix and it's harder than I had ever imagined. He misses so much. And I am a stay at home mom as well so I am on 24/7 typically without much help from him since he's gone so much. I always have to tell myself that he would much rather be with us and he does it to take care of our family. But I would be lying if I said I didn't resent it a little. We are hoping to get out of the traveling so much soon! He works hard and he loves us, and wine...that's how we get by.
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      11/08/13
      My hubby use to be gone for weeks, sometimes a month when we were stationed elsewhere. This include times like birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas... Let me tell you, it was tough. It really just meant finding a lot of hobbies.
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        11/08/13
        My hubby works nights 4pm-5am on a 2-2-3 rotation. I am home with the girls by myself a lot. For the last 8 months I was a stay at home mom so I was with the girls 24/7 and we didn't get out unless we had errands that needed running and gas money to do so. Now I am back to work working days 7am-3:30pm so the girls go to a babysitter during the day. I know it doesn't really compare to having a hubby gone for weeks or months or years at a time but when he is home he doesn't really help. He will entertain the girls while I am cooking and help with other stuff with the girls but I am on my own for all of the household stuff even when he is home. He doesn't even pick up after himself. The first four months with the new baby were really rough because she was so colicky and big sis acted out horribly. We survived it somehow though and things are a lot better now.

        We both work full time but he is the primary bread winner and his job has benefits unlike mine. I don't like his schedule much but his job keeps a roof over our heads and most of the bills paid.
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          I actually found it more challenging when he came BACK.. My husband would travel four days out of every week.. and I was just in the zone, doing it all alone and I had it.. and it was more difficult for me to LET him back IN... to jump in and take over bath or help with bed... My kids preferred me and we had our routine down and I really had to focus and back off and ask for help too...

          In hindsight.. it made our marriage stronger for some time... I missed him and was so glad when he was back...This was early on though.. life changes... BUT... Some find it to work better...
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            11/09/13
            8Theresa Gould
            No problem, Leah, that was kind of the purpose of the post because I honestly do not know how you all do it. I feel very spoiled. My husband is very supportive, hands on and involved. To imagine doing it all by myself exhausts and quite frankly, scares me.
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              11/08/13
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              11/10/13
              Ouch, Lisa. Sorry you have to go back to the distance... I totally know what you mean about how maybe it would have been easier with a kid, but I won't go too far down that rabbit hole. Appreciating hubs being around now, though it too has its strangeness.
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              ***Baby Team Leader Moms.com*** I have been married for over 20 years. My husband and I have eight children ages 18 down to 4 years old. We use to live in Chicago but now live in Canada. I own www.FaithandFamilyReviews.com.