I want to start off by saying I really don't care if you formula feed or breast feed. It's personal decision and it isn't always up to you anyway. As long as your feeding your baby your doing a good job.
That said, nobody looks down on moms giving their baby a bottle in public. Moms who bottle feed don't think twice about being out and about during a feeding time because they can just bring a bottle. Moms who nurse aren't so lucky.
Our society had made breasfeeding into a big deal. It's not. It's just feeding a baby, but I'm as guilty as everyone else of over thinking it. I can't deny that I plan outings around nursing schedules. If we're going somewhere that I can't find a private place to nurse I'll try to go later or earlier. Or not go at all. It's frustrating, but I figured it was just a part of motherhood. Until I realized that my formula-feeding friends don't have that particular struggle. Women in other countries who breastfeed don't struggle either. Very few people in those countries would look twice at a breastfeeding mother, covered or not. Why are we so sensitive to it? Why am I so sensitive about nursing in public, even with a cover? When did I get brainwashed into not only thinking that my breastfeeding will make those around me uncomfortable but that their being uncomfortable is MY problem. It's not. Why can't I let it go and just feed my baby? It's not like I'm gonna be sitting there topless and the baby covers up most of me. I try to use a cover if a can anyway. WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL?!
I really want to help normalize breastfeeding in the western world but I don't know where to start. Making a big deal out of not making a big deal of breastfeeding is a little counter intuitive.
Did you ever feel uncomfortable giving Noah formula in public? Like people were judging you? I feel that way sometimes when I have to nurse in public and I can't find a private area.
In 10, 15, 20 years, it won't matter. Just do you! :)
Just because breasts are now viewed as sexual doesn't mean that's what they were intended for. Knowing the laws, and knowing you have every right to feed your baby in public-cover or not-is a huge boost in confidence to feed in public.
I'm to the point where if we are in the city I will more than likely feed her in the car, simply because I can keep the two olders corraled. Around town it's the same thing, but I no longer hesitate to feed her at the park or anywhere else where the kids have a place to play because I have every right to 'pull out a boob' and feed her.
If you bottle feed, you bottle feed. I don't really care as long as you feed your baby. I get a little on the testy side when i hear 'it's sexual' or 'gross' or 'I'm molesting my child'.... Women's boobs were made to give milk to babies. period. The end. Just because a man finds pleasure in seeing boobs doesn't mean that ends their intended use.
off my soap box now.