When did you decide to conceive children? This is my story, tell me yours!

There were several phases of my husband and I deciding to conceive children... At first it started out with us just not using any protection and seeing what happened. After a couple years of that, I started doing the silly stuff like making sure my husband wore loose undergarments and propping my hips in the air after having sex.

I saw a doctor and told him we had been trying for a while... He tried to write me off, “Oh, you're young... You have time. You'll have kids. Give it time.” Blah blah blah. I requested an ultrasound where they found ovarian cysts and 'debris' (I still don't know what that means, I don't know why I didn't get more information than I did. I don't even remember now what I asked about it) So that put a damper in things... He offered to put me on birth control to regulate my cycles to which I said no. Birth control pills mess me up. Even the super low dose Nuvaring messes with my body. Forget it.

I was at a pretty bad place in my life anyway, so I didn't push much further.

A year or so after that, we started talking about REALLY trying to have kids. I had talked to one other doctor who told me I 'didn't ovulate' though I think he was wrong, his timing off, and he only checked hormone levels for one cycle. It was a military hospital, so any of you military wives know just what I mean. I took it to heart though, and decided to try some natural fertility methods.

Eventually, we decided to order the vitamin combos I had researched and told to me by Shayna. I also ordered some Fertilitea which had rave reviews and was recommended to her by a fertility doctor. I thought what the heck, ordered a special mug to drink my 'lady tea' and began our adventure. It was a huge step for my husband and myself. We had made the commitment to truly, actively try for children.

I got pregnant the first month I used it. I miscarried at what I thought was the beginning of my second trimester, though the baby had been lost before that. I got pregnant directly following that miscarriage without a period between. Miscarriage.

Now, having just lost my best friend, and moved across country, my husband and I are kind of in limbo.

We will try again soon, but we've sort of taken a step backward on the TTC levels. I still have my tea and and vitamins for hubby and I both, but I want to get settled in a house and get him settled in a job and let life slow down a little while, have some time to grieve (I lost someone else very important to me about 13 months ago, so it has been a long year or so.)

When we try again, I know I'm going to be on the edge of my seat, so I need to be in a place where I'm emotionally prepared for that. Part of me wants to just try now while I'm kind of numb-hurt just in case, but that seems wrong... So, we will wait and see. 'Til then I'm not preventing.

What about you? When did you decide to conceive?

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    05/12/14
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      Ashley
      Thanks for your story. Here is all mine
      With haiden we were just dating so we were not trying. I was young and dumb teenage so i decided i would play around with my pills. I would go 1 week and take them, another week i would miss them. Plus he told me there was a possiblity he could have kids as he was told by a dr. So i thought hey nothing to lose. I moved in with him before graduating. His lease was up, i graduated high school, we got a new apartment. 1 month later i found out i was pregnant. The dr told me i am very fertile and it wont take me long to get pregnant if we wanted another.

      With logan we talked about it in october of trying. But i wanted to finish my last pack of pills which was in decemeber. So we stopped all birth control pills after xmas. I had a gut feeling i was pregnant in january 2010. I took a test and it was a slight postive. So i waited one more week and retested and that was the 2nd wee of jan.

      Vince it took us longer than the other 2. But same story as the others.
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        Amy Phroper
        With my first child me and her dad had been together almost a year and decided we wanted to try. I got pregnant about 4 months after we started trying. I ended up miscarriaging at 14 weeks. They said she had stopped growing some where between 11-13 weeks. We had just buried my sister 2 weeks before. I went into a very deep depression. We decided to stop trying after that. Well 4 months after my miscarriage I ended up pregnant again that time I carried her to her to term.
        With my second me and my husband had been trying for 2 years to get pregnant. We did everything we would read about. Finally we went to a specialist who told us that we had about a 5% chance of getting pregnant without in vitro. But she offered to give me some shots to try and help before we went straight to in vitro and I got pregnant the first cycle. Which ended up in me having a miscarriage. I was devastated again. So we waited 6 months and decided to try the shots again and that time I got pregnant again and ended up having a baby boy at 37 weeks.
        When we were ready to try again we did the shots again and had 2 miscarriages before getting pregnant with our last child. I had a baby boy at 39 weeks.
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          05/13/14
          I had always wanted children from a very early age. I would have had more if I could. I also had fertility problems, and was told I would never have children. I was also told I needed a hysterectomy in my early twenties. I did not want to give into that.
          I went to a specialist, had a vaginal ultrasound that showed a lot of scarring, supposedly endometriosis. My husband at the time and I were really not trying nor preventing. Still a few months after this, I got pregnant and did not have any problems.
          Happy healthy baby. We had been married for 4 years.
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            12/31/14
            Me and my husband is married for 1 year now. We are currently trying to conceive for 7 months now. I had Lymphoma cancer and was treated with chemo. The doctors think that I had damage with my "woman - parts'" from the chemo. He put me on fertility pills last month and this month and told me that if I am not pregnant the second month, I have to go back to be tested further and also to test my husband. This has been a very stressful time for me. We really want a baby. We also tried every tactic there is and had no luck so far. Really hopes that this is my moth of conceiving.
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              12/31/14
              Melissa Middleton
              Jaina is my step-daughter, and my hubby and his ex-wife tried for two years.
              Jonah was a condom baby and was conceived 11 months after we wed. But, we were happy nonetheless, and I truly wanted a baby. We are now trying to conceive another child. I want another boy and a girl. I secretly wanyt twins. Hubby wants another boy.
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