Dealing with the death of a loved one
I talked to my mom over the weekend and she told me she doesn't think my aunt (her oldest sister, there's six of them and mom is #3) is going to make it for much longer. She's a diabetic and her kidneys are failing. She's basically refused dialysis because of the distance and she doesn't want to move closer to treatment. :(
This aunt is one of my favorites. She's 1600 miles away. I haven't seen her in over eight years, just phone calls. She is childless and treated my three sisters and I, as well as all our cousins, like her own. This is when I hate being so far away. I've been through this with the death of my dad, my grandmother and my uncle, this aunt's husband, but it doesn't get any easier. I find I grieve weirdly because I'm not actually there to see or experience them being gone etc. so I dread when her time comes because I know that grief will come in unexpected waves, especially when I have flashbacks or memories. It still happens to me for my dad and grandmother and they've been gone since 2006 and 2007, respectively.
How do you prepare yourself for the loss of a loved one?
I went through something similar.. my sweet cousin who we knew was going to pass soon from cancer months ago.. it was very hard.. brought back so many memories and then ones of those we have already lost as well.. I say, hold tight to the good times, remember the great times with her.. pray about those and pray for her peace..