Should a step mom be called mom?

I am going to say generally, no. It's one thing if you have raised the child their entire life as the main or only female figure. But if they have a relationship with their mother then it needs to be respected, in my opinion. That includes the title of "mom".

Now if the child wants to call you mom and you are comfortable then go for it. Otherwise it would be a better idea to be on a first name basis.

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    05/12/14
    4Santana Ferrell
    Thank you for that. My 2 older kids have been told by dads girlfriend to call her mom and they have both told her No your not my mom
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      05/12/14
      I so agree with this! My step son has asked if he could call me Mom but I know it would create problems so I don't allow it.
      But my sister has 2 step kids who call her mom and their birth mom by her first name. But that is what their birth mom wants.
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        05/12/14
        I am a step mother and I had first had experience with her mother telling her to call her step father dad and her dad Keith while she was at her mother' house ( we get her 4 days out of every month) . This was heart breaking not only for my husband but for his daughter who was 8 at the time. I have always told her when she asked me about it. You only have one mother and one father. I am her step mother and I would never ask her to call me mom. Barbara was and is what she calls me. We have a great relationship and I know she appreciates not having to pretend around me.
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          05/12/14
          4Santana Ferrell
          i do agree
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            05/12/14
            4Santana Ferrell
            My ex husband and I parted on friendly terms and he agreed that they didnt need to call Amy mom. we have respect for each other and were lucky to leave with a friendship still. I have seen divorces end badly and I for one am glad my children didnt have to endure that.
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              05/12/14
              we do our best to never bad mouth her mother and always show her she doesn't have to feel bad for loving her step parents and biological parents. Her mother has not done this so my husband and I do our best to just let her be a 10 year old girl. Not a girl from a divorced family.
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              05/12/14
              4Santana Ferrell
              I love that you do that
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                07/01/14
                4Mandy Drake
                My husband is the step-dad to our 13 yo. She does call him dad. He has raised her from the age of 3 and her bio dad has never really been a big part of her life. But calling him dad was never anything we told her to do. We let her call him whatever she wanted to and just went with what she felt. She didn't start really calling him dad on a regular basis until around the age of 9. I still call him Cory when I talk to her and refer to her bio dad as "dad" in conversations. But if you ask her my husband is the only real father she has known.
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