"You'll make new friends"

As someone who lived in one home from age 3-17, I can attest to what this writer is saying, that "home" is something permanent and safe, but I know this isn't the case with a lot of people.

How do you feel about the way the author deals with a big move? Is "You'll make new friends." A good way to deal with it?

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/05/13/you…

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      I lived in the same house until I was 15. My dad left us when I was about 7-8 and I got really insecure. That house became a symbol of my life before our family fell apart. It made me feel safe. When my mom remarried she moved us a few counties away. She didn't get why it was hard for me. I was going to commute to the same school so I'd have the same friends. she'd say "it's just a house" like I should just get over it. She didn't take the time to realize how important that house was to me. When life was hard or scary or lonely I always knew that I could come home to the place where I remembered my dad tucking me in and my mom smiling. Leaving that place what like leaving the only family I'd ever known.

      I think that dealing with a move is different for every kid. No matter what, it's important for the parent to take the time to realize what it's going to be like for that particular kid. Talk to them and work through it. It may be no big deal for them, or it could be huge.
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        Beth
        I never moved, and my husband moved allllll the time since he was an army brat :)

        I think we both created good friendships with many different people and we both have very different views on if it's OK to move our children around frequently. He thinks it's fine because... they'll make new friends! I love the idea of having a more permanent home. My parents still live in the house I grew up in and I love all the memories the house holds for me. Sure, I'd have those memories even if they didn't live there, but being able to be in the house and have something little catch my eye brings those memories to the front of my brain.
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