If it is Dylan's last year at school and Derek just got a promotion, do you think we should move or stay and let Derek take the position next year or should Derek just move out there and I join him next year?!? I need advice my girlfriends are all saying I should go and support Derek yet I don't want Dylan to start all over again!!!
That said, if he has any kind of special needs you really need to take that into consideration. Moves can be stressful on children who are special needs. I just went through this, it was rough.