Standards Too High?
I've been told by many people, including my own parents, that I have really high standards when it comes to looking for a partner. I guess the reason I bring this up is because there is a man who has been talking to me recently and he's a year younger than me, which isn't that big of a deal. But he's definitely still in that "teenage" mindset. Granted, he's been married before like I have and we share those similarities, but every now and then he'll say something that makes me cringe lol.
So I guess my question is this: for all of you who are married or have a SO, did you have standards? I feel like my mom just wants me to settle down with any man who seems like a legit option lol but I feel like that's just wrong. I like men who have their stuff together in life. I don't want to date someone who has no idea what they are doing and is completely lost in life lol. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I know my mom wants me to settle down and have a "real" family, but I can't picture myself finding someone and just marrying them just because it's the "right thing to do" lol.
If I for some reason was on the lookout for someone, now, though? I dunno...Maybe someone reasonably smart with common sense, who's willing to listen and can make me laugh. I wouldn't mind if they were handsome, but looks are less important than personality. But yeah, don't look for the impossible. There's nothing wrong with having a good opinion of yourself and thinking you deserve better, but don't just turn away from someone if they don't quite meet everything you want. You don't have to settle, but I think keeping an open mind is important.
During my single days, right when I met Ed, I partied way too much and it was honestly only by the grace of God that I landed a great guy with no baggage instead of the 22 year old idiot from the bar that worked at McDonalds.
Crisis averted. My standards were way higher before I hit the bar in those days..haha