When your teenager wants a car.

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/05/15/whe…

Ed and I have had this discussion already, even though Charlie is only 5 months old. We were both raised the same in that, when it came time for a car certain things came into play. Mainly our grades and general attitude. We agree that if Charlie is maintaining good grades and is overall a good kid with a good attitude and doesn't get into trouble, we will purchase a modest car (or quiet honestly give him one of Ed's project cars). We'll pay the insurance until he gets a ticket/accident, then he's on his own.

My older brothers growing up got to choose a fixer-upper that my dad would help them with. By the time they had a license, they respected that car. Ed is a master mechanic so I know there will be some similarities there. I'm hoping for a small pickup, so he can't haul too many friends around..haha.

Have you dealt with this yet? Or, if you aren't there yet, have you had this talk?

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      Beth
      We haven't dealt with this, but we have talked about it a few times. My husband and I had VERY VERY different upbringings and we have yet to come to an agreement.

      I had to work for my own car. I was allowed to borrow my parents' car (I was a great student and generally pretty well behaved) if I asked and they weren't using it, but it came with a pretty strict set of rules - I had to be very detailed about where I was going, when I would be home, etc. I wasn't allowed to have my own car until I saved up enough money to purchase one myself, which I did eventually do :)

      My husband was given a car for his 16th birthday. It wasn't new, but it was a nice car and it was his to use as he pleased.

      I think working for things is really important - a car is a big deal and is a huge privilege in my opinion. I'm fine with letting them borrow our cars, like my parents did - or even maybe us buying an extra "family" car for them to use... but I don't like the idea of giving a teenager a car just because they are able to drive it. Thankfully, we still have a good 11ish years before we have to really think about it!
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