So I have to admit that my husband is not your typical Manly Man. He's not super handy, isn't super athletic, likes to look nice, isn't afraid to emotional has never been hunting, never been in a fight, etc.
The good part of that is he can be really supportive of me. He's not shy about talking about 'girly' things when I need to. It's nice to have that around all the time?
On the other side sometimes I wish I had more of a traditional manly figure around the house. It would kill him to know that I feel this way, but I just want him to be a little more authoritative, you know? I don't need him to be all macho, cave man or anything. I just want him to get a little protective, show some back bone, solve problems instead of whining about them, get dirty, take initiative, not worry so much.
I'm probably just sensitive to it because our relationship has changed so much since Avery was born, but I need a little bit more man in my man. I don't think I can tell him this though. It'll hurt his feelings...
Is your guy a manly man? If not, does it bug you sometimes?
First off, I completely understand where you are coming from. I've dated a few guys that fit that category...but married someone totally different.
You can hint to your husband a little instead of telling him "like it is". Maybe say things around him like "I love when you are around. You give me a great sense of security." That always makes my husband jump to defense mode because he now realizes that he is the first line of defense for the family. Also, I am sort of a tom-boyish mom (prior military, its just in my blood). I like to look under the hood of cars, work on assembling furniture, etc. Maybe challenge him to something like this. Suggest that if he can't handle fixing something around the house then you'll find someone else to do the work. Most men are territorial and tend to not like another man coming in and doing something he could very well do. Or say something such as, "if I can do this, I KNOW you can." You pretty much have to reveal his role to him. It takes some time and very careful choice of words :) but I think he'll come around. Challenge him without insulting him.