I'm a misfit! What about YOU?
Oh man, you probably shouldn't get me started on this topic!
I think there comes a point in every misfit's life where they effectively accept that fact and become comfortable in their own skin. I think I've mostly reached that point and am earning to embrace my inner misfit.
I have never really fit in. In high school and stuff, it's not like I was royally shunned or anything, I got along with pretty much everybody... but I never really 'fit' with them. I was a misfit. I have my one little group of friends who has stuck together through the years who are also quite misfit themselves. I think that's why it works.
Anyway, the reasons why I'm a misfit... Well, I have admittedly weird interests. While most people are watching sports and socializing off at college, I'd rather be researching psychology or business or any of the esoteric stuff I'm into online. I love to read and collect books and tea. My husband says I'm like a little old lady in a twenty-something body. And kind of the crazy eccentric type.
Another reason is that I've done a lot of stuff. I don't mean that in a conceited way, but I come from a small town where a lot of people never really leave. I'm married young. I've moved several times with my husband, including two cross-country moves. I'm trying for a baby. I'm looking for a house. I've also dealt with a lot of negative things that have shaped me that I won't go into. I guess all these things are mostly normal, if I were doing them later. I know some of you other ladies on here who either have done all this stuff young or are currently doing it know just what I mean. You kinda lose touch with peers in your own age group, right? The ones who are still in school and still doing the same things they were?
I don't abide by convention or societal standards. I've always been kind of the black sheep of the family and am now also with my husband who is the black sheep of his family. I like to think for myself and reason out my own options and conclusions, rather than just go with what everyone else is doing and so does he.
Those are just a few of the teeny ways I'm a misfit. I think we all have a little misfit in us, else the whole world would be so boring! So what makes YOU a misfit?
I am labeled a geek and nerd by society (a geek by urban definition...I do not bite the heads off of live chickens). I like people but lack social skills. Just about any animal will come up to me and/or follow me home--I tend to get along better with animals than humans (yes, even squirrels and deer. A few ducks used to follow me to class at college; it was rather embarrassing). I do not watch rate R movies and am very cautious about PG-13. I prefer books over movies. I like mathematics, physics, science, history, philosophy, and complex puzzles (but others say I am obsessed with these things). My idea of fun is figuring out a complex math problem or reading Stephen Hawkings. I was disliked in many college classes because I earned A's when many others did not, sometimes no one did but myself. I took the tough teachers. I studied and never partied or procrastinated, like many did. I like sci-fi and comic books. I enjoy drawing, reading, writing, organic gardening, and living a healthy lifestyle. I do not drink, smoke, nor swear (not even replacement words). These things, have made me stand out in my family, school, and work. I like to say that I am normal; it is everyone else that is weird.
I married someone at the court house, who was married before and has a daughter (she will be 11). We will have been married for two years next month.
I don't put her as my daughter here because her mother would get mad, even though she makes her daughter call her step-father, "Daddy."
You sound a lot like me, minus tattoos because I can only tolerate shots and my blood being drawn. Lol
I love my step-daughter like my own, too. Her mother is unfit, unfortunately. I secretly wish I was her mother though.
We plan to adopt, we are hoping to anyway, and I will call those children mine as well.
My husband was adopted. He calls his adoptive parents "Mom and Dad." He talks to his bio mother, and she gets upset when he calls her by her first name. To him, the Middletons raised him. They are his parents, and that is the way I see it.
His bio mother gave her kids up. She has changed but, in my opinion, she needs to understand that Steve's parents are the ones who adopted and raised him since he was ten years old (along with three of his brothers, too).
My step-daughter, something similar happened but she is slowly coming around. It is breaking my hubby's heart; it is painful watching him go through such agony.
Maybe his children may eventually come around someday, who knows. Money/gifts are meaningless when you are all alone.
As far as staying connected with friends from school and such, most people don't. You get your own life, jobs, families, and so forth. That is not to say that you don't keep in touch with those you were close to , but it just isn't at the forefront of your existence.
I was always a misfit because I studied very hard, made great grades, and worried more about school than I did about partying. That just didn't appeal to me. I also was married very young. I don't regret the decisions I made. They all made me the person I am today.