Article: Father Files Restraining Order Against 5-Year-Old Alleged Bully

I was just talking about this article to Milagro Rivera, and I thought I'd make a general post about it and share it with our community.

The title is pretty self-explanatory--this father, tired of his daughter being bullied by a classmate, and after exhausting the options provided to him by following the usual staff chain of command, took it into his own legal hands to protect his daughter. The young bully was making some very scary and dangerous-sounding threats, as quoted in the article--"I want to slit your throat and watch you bleed."

We all know that no five year old is coming up with these things on his own. Comments about this can be pretty critical, but I will not join in that criticism. I know the boy is young, and my goodness, of course he needs help, but that's not the topic. Continued bullying to my child would not be an option, and I too would make an uproar until I felt that my child was safe.

Bullying is rightly a hot-button issue--I can't stand the idea that our children should be afraid of each other. I am thinking that, based on this case, that if you aren't able to counter bullying through the usual channels, using media or the internet to expose the systemic failures may be the only other way to go. If you fear for your child's safety, you're probably not alone in feeling that way.

Do you have bullying stories? How do your school administrations handle it? Please share any stories that you may have.

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    05/19/14
    I'm really interested to see if he gets the order. Usually they won't grant this kind of thing against a juvenile. If anything I hope it promotes the parents to seek help for the child or for social services to investigate what is going on. Your average child would not even know to say something like that, this goes beyond seeing something on TV. He may have a mental illness, in which case the school can NOT disclose that information to the parents of the bullied child. However, there needs to be something done, it can't be allowed to continue.
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    05/19/14
    A comment I read said that for this case to even get this far, the father must have some real evidence. Even if he gets his wish, everyone is unfortunately a victim in this situation. I hope the little bully boy gets the help that he seems to need.
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      05/19/14
      8Theresa Gould
      No, thankfully we don't have any bullying experience, unless you count sibling bullying, which we nip in the bud right away.
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      05/20/14
      I'd be interested to hear his take, Meg!
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        05/20/14
        Erik's son is getting bullied. The son has enough sense to let school officials know. Erik, on the other hand, has told me that his son needs to learn how to stand up for himself and fight, and that he will teach his son how to fight.

        I gave Erik's ex the heads up. Thankfully, she and I get a long really well. Both of us agree that Erik's way of thinking is NOT right, and that she'll continue to reinforce to their son that letting school authorities address the bullying is the best way to handle this. She has also made a trip to the school to address this.
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          05/20/14
          That's a sad story. A few years ago, I signed up with K12 to homeschool my daughter. The first question they asked me was, "Are you taking her out of school because of bullying?" This must be a real problem. I'm glad that the father did not back down and took the action he did. I've seen parents get upset about things, lose their cool, and get arrested. This man is a real model for other parents. If the schools are presented with enough restraining orders (which is a big inconvenience to them), maybe they'll be forced to act. Regarding the little boy, that's such a shame. He's very disturbed. He needs help ASAP. My guess is that he's an abused child and is acting the way his abusive parent acts toward him.
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            05/20/14
            I was bullied as a child in public school for being a fat girl. That feels like normal bullying to me, and although I hated it, thinking my child may go through that doesn't make me as afraid as this young child's very specific threat of violence. I think it's the violent acts in general that scare me the most.
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              05/25/14
              4Diana
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