Mom, how do you stay close with your friends

It's a struggle to stay close with my friends. Some friends I go months without speaking to and we pick up where we left off, either by phone, in person or email (not too many). Other friends I text every day, every other day or every week and occasionally get together for lunch or some other event.

Thankfully, most of my friends are in the same boat as I am and lead busy, fulfilling lives that we are not overly demanding on each other's time. I like that. I like knowing my friends are there for me and I hope they know I am there for them.

What about you?

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8Theresa GouldChicago, Illinois
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    05/20/14
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    05/20/14
    8Theresa Gould
    Awww....that's sad. Do they have good reason or are they just being "pills" about your relationship?
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    05/20/14
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    05/20/14
    8Theresa Gould
    That's too bad. It's their loss, but it's still sad.
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      05/20/14
      I don't really have any friends. I know that sounds sad but it really doesn't bother me. When I was younger I lost most I my friends because they were all getting married and having babies and I was building my business. Then I made anther group of friends that were in the same place in life I was then I got married and had my little guy and lost those friends.
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      05/20/14
      8Theresa Gould
      That makes sense. We kind of move on when we are in different places in life.
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        05/20/14
        Melissa Middleton
        My sister is my best-friend. There aren't many hardcore Christians out here, so it is difficult to maintain friendships. Most moms I know like to drink, smoke, and party...that is not me. I wish my sister lived closer. I have five sisters, but I am really close to one. All my other friends are back in Cali. I lost a few when I got married. One wanted complete control of my wedding, everything her way, and the other wanted me to stay single. Oh well...I usually connect with friends and family via Facebook. Sadly, that is my main source of socialization. :'( Lol

        Add to that, we stay rather busy. He works six days a week, and our son has four different doctors, plus a PT that comes once a week. Phew. Lol
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        05/20/14
        8Theresa Gould
        That's great you are so close to your sister. Mine all live 1600 miles away but we just pick up where we left off, we are sisters after all. It just feels like we aren't close with distance and lack of communication.
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        05/20/14
        Melissa Middleton
        Mine live 2500-3000 miles away. :/
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        05/23/14
        8Theresa Gould
        That is a long way away! I understand though because one of my good friends from college is a missionary in Africa and another is in Nova Scotia, though I am not in touch with them like I use to be. I still miss the closeness of our friendship though.
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          05/20/14
          lol, looks like we're all in the same boat. No friends. No problem. haha! I work 38 hours a week and I'm friends with everyone I work with so honestly, every day is like a 10 hour hang out day for the most part. We talk and joke and have fun all while getting our jobs done. So honestly, I get enough socialization at work that I don't see much "need" for hanging out outside of work. Every now and then I like to, but I don't really have friends outside of work and the friends I do have are all my age but no kids, not married and are having fun living their lives. Which is perfectly fine. Like I said, I get to talk to someone almost every day of the week so it really doesn't bother me much that I don't really have friends lol.
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          05/20/14
          8Theresa Gould
          It's so true. I think the friends thing can be overrated. Quite honestly, I'm around nine other people every single day and treasure any down time!

          It's good that you have a good working relationship with everyone though, that's probably what makes work fun because you all get along so well and there's no expectations etc.
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            05/20/14
            I talk to you all on here!
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              05/22/14
              4Nicole
              I try to keep the communication going as much as possible. Most of my friends are momma's too. Sometimes we try to do a playdate or a coffee-date if daddy will watch the kids ~_^
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