A Mom forced by a Judge to stop Breast feeding so baby can go with her dad ...

The headline immediately gives you the impression that this poor mother is being forced to totally stop breastfeeding...​ Which for most moms is and could be devastating... I get it...

BUT... Maybe it's not black and white.. FIRST.. her baby is 10 months old, she is not together with the father and the father WANTS to share custody .. props... Secondly, she's used the excuse of no over nights because she's nursing... I understand.. but things happen and you can modify...

She can pump and give the milk to the dad, right? Her breasts will adjust to the night where she's not there... and I have to come from a place where NO... this is NOT ideal.. and sucks for everyone, but when you're in this sort of situation, you HAVE to make it work... You MUST...

Put your children first.. and some would argue, she is.. but... maybe I'm more relaxed because I'm a single mom and have let my kids share time with their dad for years now and I realized very early on.. that to have a good relationship with their dad and encourage that.. is WAY better and easier and healthier than fighting it...

thoughts?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/12/judge-or…

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    11/16/13
    5sarah
    She says the baby won't drink from a bottle but if she doesn't drink from a bottle then how has he been having daytime with her? I think its a "I want the baby all to myself" case personally.
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    11/17/13
    5sarah
    yeah it was mostly about the mom but i kinda think if the dad actually makes her quit breastfeeding their both equally as selfish i don't think that young staying the night at dads or not is really going to make a too much of a difference to the child I think if your going to have a child with someone you should both grow up and be able to work it out among yourselves...i also understand that in some cases that just isn't possible...but what kid wants to feel like their parents hate each other so much that a judge has to decide when they get to see their mom and dad...
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      11/16/13
      I know I haven't breastfed yet.. but I do agree with you Jessica.. I think it might be growing up with my Dad as a Judge.. you have to consider ALL factors.. not just.. "breast is best for the baby.. so I get to have them all to myself".. the parents are not together and the Dad WANTS to see his kid which is rare enough in this situation.. it seems as though she is making it harder.. I could see if they baby was 3-4 months, even 6-7 months old.. but 10? I just wouldn't know when her excuse would stop.. some ppl breastfeed for years, no? So no overnight for YEARS?

      I just think all factors need to be considered.
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        11/17/13
        5sarah
        I still vote they both just need to get over themselves and look at whats best for the baby. Like I said what kid wants someone other than their parents decided when they can see their parents.
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          11/17/13
          I agree with Sarah and Meg.. Life isn't perfect and you have to make adjustments... I think that she can have her time with her baby without the baby losing breast time and it's rare a father fights for that kind of time... so... Is it ideal? NO... But what is?

          I think that the mom will feel sad, but the truth is.. LUCKY baby.. BOTH parents want her and these days that's all you can ask for some times... They have to let go of themselves and put that baby first... It won't be easy.. nope.. But I swear... If you can put your kids first and you TRULY second in this kind of situation, your kids will grow to be confident and feel love...

          I've had to share my kids with their dad since 1 and 3... it's not easy and you never really get used to it, but bottom line is my kids loved their dad and they loved their night or two with him.. they always were ready to come home and because we worked it out, our kids have grown to be confident, loved and loving kiddos that are well formed and have two families that adore them, not fighting and we try to all get together with them for the important stuff as much as possible.. Even if for a bday or an award or an hour on xmas morning.. Would I choose that? Nope.. But I give that to them. Happily...

          I'm still learning too.
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          About Jessica
          Born: Novato, California
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          Birth: May 28
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          We live in Los Angeles, CA. I'm a writer, comedian, actor and single mom of two. Parenting is hard. I try to keep a sense of humor about it all and find the find the funny... in what is most likely NOT funny (i.e. boogers, meltdowns, homework, etc.).