What I Have to Deal With...

So I had my little rant earlier but here's the whole story and mind you, this is just TODAY. As in, ridiculous things like this have happened before. Many times....

I work from 10 to 8 PM. I leave the house around 9 or so in the morning. He comes and picks her up about 10:30 according to my mother. My mom calls me at 5:45 PM asking me if I've heard anything from him because he normally brings her back before 5. I called him asking him where he was and why so late. He says he was visiting a friend and the traffic was bad. I automatically knew he had gone downtown, 45 minutes away, to visit some funky friends of his in the WORST part of town! I told him no before, but he took her today anyway.

I hung up. My mom called back about 10 minutes later and said she was acting like she hadn't ate in days. She had 2 bowls of noodles, 3 full glasses of milk and a small piece of cake for dessert. She never eats that much. I immediately called him back and asked him wtH was going on! He said she hadn't ate all day. He had no money and they were out all day. So from 10 AM to 6PM, she ate NOTHING!

I just want to cry. I'm so sad for my little girl who had to endure a ton of complete strangers today, strange places, strange cars, no food, nothing to drink, forced to just go places with her father because her father cares more about hanging out with his friends than he does about spending time with her.

It's days like these that I wish he would just disappear. I wish he'd just vanish. She would be MUCH better without him! He's fallen asleep with her there, TWICE! She's fallen down his stairs, unsupervised, TWICE! And now this? He is constantly bringing her around sketchy, funky people that I don't know/trust. It's so frustrating! I just want to scream at him!

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05/21/14
We aren't technically divorced yet so there isn't anything legal that I can do yet. But you can bet your bottom dollar that once we are, I will be on him like a hawk. I will take him to court for every tiny little thing if I have to. I am white knuckle every time she goes with him. I don't know where they're going. I never know where they are. And even when he brings her home, he never tells us if she slept, or ate, or where she went. Nothing. It's so terrifying!
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    8Theresa Gould
    I was going to suggest something similar to Melissa, doesn't this constitute a change in his visitation rights? I mean going all day without eating! And Oy! to the other stuff she's subjected to. I can see why you are so frustrated. Hugs mama!
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      amanda
      I would not stand for this. It sucks but her safety is much more important than the fact that he is her dad. And any REAL father would not do that to their child. Melissa is right that is neglect and unacceptable. I would bring it up in court and tell them you do not believe he has her best interest or safety in mind.
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        05/21/14
        amanda
        I am so sorry you have to go through this btw.
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          05/21/14
          I can't imagine being in your situation but I hope it gets better.
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            05/21/14
            not exactly. I have a friend who has two girls with the same guy. They aren't together anymore and he's openly admitted he wants nothing to do with either of them. But Indy won't let him sign away his rights because she doesn't have a "replacement". He'll still see them until she gets remarried. And he physically abuses them! She's tried calling the cops and going through the courts, but the state doesn't care. In fact, the state almost took them away from HER. They made the girls "wards of the state" but in her care. It's awful here....
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            I'm a 23 year old single mother living in Fortville, IN. I work in Indianapolis. I have a wonderful 3 year old daughter, Clara. Check out my facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100005722937289 :-)