Who's your daddy? One of the most important decisions you can make.
I see a lot of posts on moms.com and other "mom sites" that talk about decisions on parenting, such as breast or bottle feeding, working at home or staying home, cry it our or rock to sleep, etc etc. And I think all of those are important - there are so many daily important decisions of parenting.
HOWEVER, I personally think that one of THE MOST important decisions you can make for your children is choosing your partner. (Caveat: for purposes of this discussion, let's focus on the majority of relationships that result in a pregnancy, being a heterosexual relationship where sex results in pregnancy. I realize there are other family models, but my purpose her is to focus on how most - though not all - people have babies.)
Just yesterday, I saw a post here about a young woman pregnant, with the father of the baby being a married man. She has no money or means of support. Another post in the past few months discussed a verbally abusive boyfriend who didn't want to have a child. And even the less extreme examples are worrisome for the future of the child - lack of a committed relationship, multiple fathers for multiple children, men who don't help or support their partners in raising the child etc. To be honest, I sometimes find it hard to understand why anybody would want to be in a relationship like that, but let's put that aside for a moment and focus on children. When a woman chooses to have a child in that type of relationship (or doesn't take pains to prevent pregnancy or consider adoption if pregnancy does occur), she is setting up a very difficult life for her child. Not to mention that children grow into adults, and they learn much more from our actions, such as how we treat our partners and ourselves, than they do from our words. So if we want to teach them to have good, healthy relationships, we need demonstrate those relationships ourselves.
Anyway, I know things happen in all relationships and people change, and therefore, even the best relationships can sour and end. But, I do think that one of the best decisions we can make for our kids is to at least try to start their life off in a good, healthy, committed relationship.
What do you think?