Baby Room.. Uh..

Okay.. so I must confess.. we haven't even started the baby's room.. some days I feel awful, others I don't really care, because I know we will get it done and things will be fine.. here is my line of thinking.. stick with me...

We have two guest bedrooms.. our house is brand new.. we won't be painting in the baby's room.. and we wanted to leave our one guest bed until the in laws come and stay over Thanksgiving.. that said, I have all the nursery PLANS sketched out.. I know what I want and where I want to put it.. (I am a less is more type gal) and I know the other odds and ends I want to add to room.. anyways.. I have 3 showers coming up.. so many gals have told me not to splurge until I need to.. the baby won't even BE in their room at first.. totally in ours as it is across the house.. but lately I see these girls who have EVERYTHING set, ready, in place and good to go months before baby is due to come.. makes me feel slacking or not like a good Mama to be... sigh. I think about the plans and have it all set to go.. just no executed yet.. anyways.. that's my sad baby room rant :( lol

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    11/18/13
    Amanda Hurley
    I am due in about 5 weeks or so. NOTHING IS SET UP FOR THE BABY. We have a bassinet, in pieces, in the closet. The swing, packed away in the back of the closet. We have his clothes in bags. We have nothing "ready" to go yet. Don't feel bad.
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    11/18/13
    Amanda Hurley
    I'm so glad. I cannot figure out where to put anything. We are way overcrowded in a two bedroom apartment as it is. We don't have anywhere else to put dressers, which we desparately need. I am trying to figure it out, but know that we are due three days before Christmas and NOTHING is ready.
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      11/18/13
      MEG! It's sort of like packing two weeks early for your trip to Hawaii... That's how I felt too.. it was too soon and not soon enough... Almost like I was waiting to get closer to allow myself to get more excited, because it's SO EXCITING and then you hurry up and wait.. and then you get it done too early and you just have to go in there and dust a couple of times.. and it seems empty and weird..

      It will come.. Mine was the same and then about 3 weeks before my due date.. I walked past the room to put some diapers in there and I started and three hours later.. finished.. Every morning after I would look at it and sit in there and sort of pray/ meditate / talk to my future mom self.. and allow myself to really BE excited and ready...

      I think you will just one day dig in and do it and I picture you just really loving it.. but only when you're ready not too soon...

      I too had friends that had their babies room ready months in advanced... and I too felt like, crap.. I suck so bad.. I thought something was wrong with me.. But we are different and plan differently.. So, relax a little.. it's OKAY!!!!

      I feel like when you're little internal mom intuition/clock thingy dings with that warning of the new baby coming.. you will tackle it...

      ANd YES!!!! Do NOT buy anything until after your showers... it's SO HARD not to, I know.. BUT... you will get so much and even better have to RETURN so much and then it's like free shopping.. :)

      You're in that hurry up and wait to wait stage... Hardest part for me.. was the 7th ISH month. ( I think you're about there?? isn?).. Too soon yet not soon enough...

      it will come.. Enjoy... Wish I could grab a gingerbread latte and sit on the floor in there with you while I watch you prepare.. I feel like we would laugh a lot and chat for hours...

      One day maybe :)
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      Eeeeeps.. it's like you crawled into my lil head and heart... too soon, yet not soon enough.. that is ME. Your reply really just put me at ease to be honest.. I almost feel like I am ALREADY competing against other expectant Moms.. so that has to stop right meow :) I am super excited.. just haven't been ready to "dive" in so to say.. because it stills feels like a ways away.. but it's coming soon too.. such an awkward time.. and yes, just hit the 3rd tri, eek. I think you are right, post Thanksgiving and after some showers I will just JUMP in.. we are so alike in that if I want something done or changed in my home.. give me an afternoon and it's set. I am the girl who carefully makes sure things are exactly where I want them.. so maybe I am just trying to make sure everything is perfect.. I know it all won't be.. but it's my lil head playing games with me... sigh.. hehe And does your list line assume you are coming to STAY WITH ME? Oh man.. I know we would giggle and laugh and maybe cry about something weird.. it would be the best afternoon.. and I hope it will happen one day :)

      Thanks so so much tho.. I need your thoughtful words :)
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        11/18/13
        YES! One day.. we can have coffee and laughs for sure.. Maybe drinks by then :)

        Until then.. I get you.. it's ok... I PROMISE.. Let it all go.. all that crap about other moms and the shoulda/woulda/coulda/supposda crap... easy for me to say now.. as I remember feeling it all so heavy...

        But Meg.. You will jump in and all will be fine and well and on YOUR personal calendar... Hang tight!!!
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          11/18/13
          Tessa
          I had everything ready by 6/7 months for my first daughter. I'm a control freak and crazy organized so i wanted everything done. But I did have that guilt with my second daughter. I had nothing ready for her until about a week before. And honestly it didn't make a difference if i did it 2 months early or a week early. And if nothing else about a week before you go into labor you'll go into nesting mode. That's what I did with my second.
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            11/18/13
            I'm just as far as you, and we still haven't finished sanding the room we started 3 weeks ago, let alone got to painting. You're actually a step ahead of me as far as deciding where you want things to go. While I am grateful of the things I've been given, they aren't what I'd want, especially my changing table (It's hardly more than a nightstand, in my opinion), so I have no idea how big of a space the stuff I will have or want will take up, which definitely makes it more difficult to plan! I'm not too worried about it. I was given a bassinet, so baby can stay in my room, I have a changing mat that came with my diaper bag, I plan to breastfeed. As far as I can tell, I'm all set for the first few months! And my goodness, that is a lot of showers! I am only having one after the baby is here, possibly on my birthday.

            I do wish SOME male in the house would be a little bit more ambitious to help ready the room with me, though! Planning is a good start, and knowing how you want to have it is just as important, as long as it's done when it needs to be. You're doing fine, Mama to be. :) We still have time!
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              11/18/13
              8Theresa Gould
              Everyone does things in her own time. I don't think it's something you should be concerned about. It has nothing to do with you being a good or bad expectant mommy. You'll do it in your time. You don't have to be like the ones who do it way ahead of time. Just keep being you. :)
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