Article: The Piece of Advice that Changed My Life as a Working Mom!

In this article, the author's situation is that she is the primary care giver of her child, but she's out of the home and working, and she has left her child home with her husband. She is tempted to go to a dinner with her colleagues, but feels guilty about leaving her husband to watch the baby longer. Her friend gives her advice: Do you thank your husband for watching the baby? She says yes. Does your husband thank you? Not so much. The bottom line: You are both parents, so don't feel bad for letting the other parent "parent."

I'm a working mom. I write about it here a lot. It's a struggle. My husband also works full time, but from home. I am home weekends and Thursdays, and of course, evenings and all nights. My husband is one on one with Maddie two days a week for about 10 hours a day, and we have a sitter come for 8 hours a day on the other two days.

Do we thank each other? No. But we do argue about who does the brunt of the work...and that makes me feel like we miss the point entirely. It's a sore spot for us, though. My husband is very involved, but at some point, I get the feeling that he feels like he's doing more than he should have to, but if I were at home full-time, I don't think he would feel that way. It's strange to try to sort out for us.

How about you? Do you feel that your partner parents evenly with you, or shares the responsibility in a way that makes you feel comfortable or not taken advantage of?

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    05/26/14
    8Theresa Gould
    It depends on the day. We are both at home right now, but I'm the one bringing in the income and there are days I get irritated, mostly on the days I've been up since 1:30am, like today and several times in the past week. I am lacking sleep, I am busting my butt by getting up early to earn money, then I come home to do another paid job or blog and I have children coming to me for help with their school work while I'm trying to work.....that's when I feel like, "Ok, enough, I can't do this!" My husband is laid back and does things in his own time. He's been doing a lot on the farm. He makes deliveries, answers the door and waits on egg customers, answers the phone....so it's not like he isn't doing anything. I just feel stressed because I have so much to do some days.
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      05/28/14
      I think that's an interesting perspective Debi. As I think of it, aside from nursing, I think my husband would be able to handle everything.
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        05/26/14
        Ah.. great post and great article.. and great questions.. so far, and Monroe is brand new, we parent together very well.. although, I do work from home, it doesn't take all day by any means.. and my husband works from about 8am until 6:30pm every day.. he has long days and has to be on his game because he is operating heavy machinery.. so at night, I get up with Monroe.. and it's fine.. at first over time I would get annoyed.. but then we talked a lot out and now when I need help, I ask, and he helps and the weekends he takes over at night.. for everything else, minus me being home all day with Monroe.. we do things together and like remind ourselves that we are a team :) It's a good start we hope!
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          05/28/14
          I think it wonderful that he is so willing to be there--you've definitely got a keeper!
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