Article: The Piece of Advice that Changed My Life as a Working Mom!
In this article, the author's situation is that she is the primary care giver of her child, but she's out of the home and working, and she has left her child home with her husband. She is tempted to go to a dinner with her colleagues, but feels guilty about leaving her husband to watch the baby longer. Her friend gives her advice: Do you thank your husband for watching the baby? She says yes. Does your husband thank you? Not so much. The bottom line: You are both parents, so don't feel bad for letting the other parent "parent."
I'm a working mom. I write about it here a lot. It's a struggle. My husband also works full time, but from home. I am home weekends and Thursdays, and of course, evenings and all nights. My husband is one on one with Maddie two days a week for about 10 hours a day, and we have a sitter come for 8 hours a day on the other two days.
Do we thank each other? No. But we do argue about who does the brunt of the work...and that makes me feel like we miss the point entirely. It's a sore spot for us, though. My husband is very involved, but at some point, I get the feeling that he feels like he's doing more than he should have to, but if I were at home full-time, I don't think he would feel that way. It's strange to try to sort out for us.
How about you? Do you feel that your partner parents evenly with you, or shares the responsibility in a way that makes you feel comfortable or not taken advantage of?