I need Help

My boyfriend (who I just moved in with), has a ten year old girl who is terrible. She is mouthy, disrespectful, lying, stealing, refuses to do what anyone tells her to do, etc... What should we do? She also has very bad melt downs. We can not get her to concentrate on her school work (she is home schooled, and is way behind. Please Help. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

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    05/26/14
    Mom has supervised visitations but misses them a lot.
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    05/26/14
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    05/27/14
    Yes her dad and I do
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    05/27/14
    Yes
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      05/27/14
      Well maybe it has something to do with her mom not making it to many of the visitations that they have. I mean she's probably hurt by the fact her mom doesn't want to spend time with her. Has she always been like this or just started up once you moved in. Maybe its just an adjustment thing and she's not used to a motherly figure around all the time now. I hope things get better but im not going to lie and I think we've all done it too some extent..some worse then others. But I know I wasn't a walk in the park for my parents around that age either.
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      05/27/14
      She was doing this before I moved in
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        05/27/14
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        05/27/14
        Him and I are on the same page. Normally my boyfriend mom does the homeschooling but I am for the time being due to her being very busy at their business that they own
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          05/27/14
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          05/27/14
          She was having issues at school with not keeping up and issues with not concentrating.
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            05/27/14
            How long have you and your bf been dating?

            Having her grandma not teaching her and you taking over probably isn't helping the situation honestly.

            This girls mom has almost abandoned her.

            Dad's gf has moved in.

            Grandma now has " left her" .

            Gf is now a teacher and disciplinarian.

            That's a lot for a young child. Even a well behaved one.
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            05/27/14
            Grandma is going to take back over teaching when their busy season comes to an end. Her grandma also had issues with getting her to do school work.
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              05/27/14
              I think a lot of her not wanting to do school work is because when she was living with her mom she did not have to do it and now we are making her do it.
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