Child in the store

Every time I go to the store with my child it is a punishment. As soon as he oversteps threshold of the store it begins, "Mom, give me a quarter, I want to buy a gum," and then he starts to take off the shelves all that he sees as a vacuum cleaner or can go shopping by himself, and I'm running and looking for him.When he sees some toy he starts to whine that this is what he always wanted and he never will ask me to buy him anything.)))))

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      08/26/13
      A toddler? ... oh wait... lemme look... He's 5? oh yeah... time for some shopping rules...lol...
      Before you go into a store, any store... set down the limits... Like, stay next to you, no running off, no pulling things off shelves, etc... and if he doesn't do those things, in the cart he goes... 5 year olds don't like the cart, but that's where he has to stay if he can't abide by the rules... and then the FIRST second he disobeys. IN the cart he goes... no warning ( you already gave him one in the parking lot) and then let him cry or freak out or whatever... then give him a second chance... and so on... But be almost overly strict with the "punishment"... so he knows you are NOT messing around and that you will not hesitate to put him in the cart screaming or whatever... He will get it... then if there's a toy aisle... as a reward at the end of the shopping trip, you can let him down and cruise around and look at the toys...
      Again... in the beginning you tell him, that you are NOT buying anything... just to look and if he begs or cries, in the cart he goes and out the door... Done..
      May take a few times... my kids who are 6 and 9 still have to be reminded... but it just takes one reminder... if that... they're pretty good... but they are kids and they get excited... they stand right next to me most of the time and I still will remind them in the beginning that we are not buying anything today..
      But also... the reward system... tell him for every time he follows the rules, he gets a dollar or whatever and then like the 5th shopping trip he can choose something from the dollar section or under 5 bucks or whatever you set up...

      But stick to your guns... they know exactly what they can get away with... and once they realize they can't... they will follow your rules...

      Hope it works... keep me posted!!!!!
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        8Theresa Gould
        It does start young. I have left carts in stores for children who would not listen to me. It didn't matter if we needed the items or not. I'd go back without them and the fact they were left behind was usually punishment enough because going out is a rare treat/event at our house. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you say you are going to take him home, take him home without doing your shopping. Tell him if he asks for something then you are going home or he loses a privilege. Come up with some consequences that will mean something to him and stick with them.

        Our children are not allowed to ask for anything. We tell them we are going shopping for the items on Mommy's list and that is all, but you have to stick to that list or children will call you on it! :)

        Hope you find solutions to help your next shopping experience be more enjoyable with your son.
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