Babies with the caretaker??

I have been watching few disturbing videos on the internet and TV news channels about babies being abused by the caretakers. I request you all to share your thought on this...

According to me: Never ever for a minute let you baby be alone with the caretaker...Whilst you are at work, your baby might be crying for help, crying with pain, might be hungry, might be physically and mentally abused and lot more. What have you earned end of the day?? Just few cash in your bank?? What about your baby's mental health?? His/her over all development?? Have you thought on the level of metal stress your baby might be going through in your absence?? If you think you are earning and saving money for your baby’s future.I tell you “NO”, you are only putting your baby’s future at risk. You have whole of your life to earn for your baby.
Mother’s love, care and attention is the baby’s birth right. The god given gift!! We are no one to take that away from them. You can get back your job after few years, but every moment you spend with your little one is priceless and will never come back again. By taking a break from your career for few years, you are not losing anything; rather you are earning a lot with your baby...
Last week when I took my baby to his Pediatrician, he gave me a list of do's and don’ts. It read as.."Read a story from a colorful story book to your 6 months old baby, he will develop interest in reading. Never argue in front of your baby, as it can affect his sleep. Always kiss your baby on his forehead before taking him to bed to make him feel secured. Never let your baby cry out, he will lose trust in you..etc etc..This means every small thing that you do with your little one makes a lot of difference in his/her life...Just spare a thought on what is your baby learning with your caretaker?? If you don’t have a choice let your parents do it for you or let them monitor the caretaker. You may be knowing the caretaker for the last 30 years or so and may trust her with your life, but coming to your baby...It’s not worth that risk..None other than parents / grand parents can be trusted with the baby.
I am a proud mom to tell you that I have taken a break from my dream job to take care of my baby. I have no salary coming in now..I have no regrets. What I am earning being a full time mother is more than what I could have earned if I had a job..I am ready for a cost cutting, but not ready to let my baby suffer...
Being a new mom, I haven't experienced how the child care works. Is it safe to let your baby with them? If I have to imagine of letting my baby be with someone other than me, his dad or my parents...god I am scared to death.. Please share your thoughts/opinion on this..

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    05/27/14
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    05/27/14
    I agree Christina...My parents don't live in USA...My husband is the only bread winner currently. We have too many commitments...I know I need to work, but me or my husband are not willing to let our baby be with someone else...too sacred of child abuse..we are working on our cost cutting rather than me working.. Generally what do you think of day care? Is it not better than having a caretaker?? Even if I need to choose a day care it's only going to be when my baby starts speaking, so that he can come home and tell me what happen the whole day..
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    05/27/14
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    05/27/14
    there are plenty of reputable day cares and nannies out there. most day cares need extensive licensing and background checks, all will allow you to tour them and discuss how the child is being cared for. Care.com is a website where child care providers who provide service are background checked and can advertise there services. Daycare and childcare providers are generally very safe but like Tracy mentioned below just do your homeowork. Leaving your child with someone else is always hard, but it can be done safely.
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      05/27/14
      That sounds like it was the right choice for you. Unfortunately someone has to put food on the table and many mothers must work and leave their child with a cretaker. I have to disagree with you though, I fully trust my care taker, my child has an excellent bond with her and is always happy when I get home. I grew up spending time with a care taker while my parents worked and I loved them, and turned out a fine productive member of society.

      I think it is about personal choice and what is right for you and your family. But I don't think that mothers that need to leave their child with a care taker are damaging their children.
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        05/27/14
        My husband is totally against leaving our child with any daycare provider, even if they are certified!! He say's once Autumn can talk, he will feel more comfortable leaving her but for now NO!! He loves' that I can take care of our daughter at home and knows she is safe. Some of us don't have the luxury and should educate themselfs on a daycare they have been looking at and research that facility. . Never take any daycare for granted, do your homework!
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          05/27/14
          Beth
          We made a lot of sacrifices so I could stay home with the kids, and I don't for a second regret them. That said, some people aren't able to afford to have a parent stay at home even if they make huge sacrifices, so sometimes there's no other option but to have your child in daycare. It can be scary, but it's also possible to find fantastic places where your child would be well cared for. Personally, I would never take a baby to someone that isn't state certified. I took my two bigger kids to a friend last summer, but both were able to talk and we always talked about their time there (they were only there 3 hours at a time).
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            05/27/14
            These are very good reasons to do thorough checks on daycares and/or babysitters. Some of us are lucky enough to stay home with our children. I have made the decision to not go back to work until Charlie enters preschool but not all mothers have that luxury. It is well worth the money to do background checks on a person who you are trusting with your child. People should not be scared to get a sitter or daycare for their child, but should do homework first.
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              08/25/14
              I have to say not all are that way I watch kids and try to keep them happy I treat them like I would if It were my own.
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              I am Navitha, married to my husband for the last 2.5 years with 8 months old baby together. I am a Lawyer by profession completed my Masters in Law from the United Kingdom. Currently on a temporary break from work to be a full time mom..:)