Separation Help??

Ever since birth, I have always been there to hold and take care of my son whenever he needs it. Now however, it is starting to become a little bit of a problem. I am at work throughout the day, and he is really good then. In the mornings, I have to sneak out of the house. But that moment he sees me when I get home, he focuses in on and he gets overly excited or really upset because I am not holding him, and he does not take his naps or go to sleep or like to be around others. It makes dinner time difficult because he makes it very hard to cook because he is just wants to be held. The same goes with dinner time or even going to the bathroom. He is almost 10 months old, and I wonder did I give him to much attention when he was first born and now he expects it, and is there a way to break this habit?

p.s.- I still want him to want me, but not be as attached and get as overly excited as he gets older.

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    05/27/14
    8Theresa Gould
    I don't think it's so much of a habit as it is him missing you. I think because you are away from him, he just wants to be with you. Is there a way you can put him in his high chair next to you while you make dinner or do you have a baby carrier so he can be on your back while you make dinner?
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    05/27/14
    I have tried the high chair during dinner and that works sometimes when he is calm. I try to plan to have dinner the same time we feed him. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not. I have not tried the baby carrier on the back, I have to look and see if i have one for that. I am always nervous of holding him though in the kitchen with having sharp knives and the fire. But can try it. Thank you for the idea Theresa Gould
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      05/27/14
      Beth
      That's a pretty normal stage at this age. I don't think it's because you gave him too much attention, but more just because of his age right now. We are going through something very similar. The only way I was able to get my first two through their bad separation anxiety was to just keep trying and wait for it to get better.

      Good luck mama, I know this is so hard to deal with!!
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        05/27/14
        LOL, you didn't give in too much or anything like that. You just have a baby and gosh darnit they want ALL the attention. :)

        It sounds like the two of you have a GREAT bond. I wouldn't discourage that at all, soon enough you will lean in for hugs and kisses and you'll get the embarrassed peck on the cheek while they look around to make sure their friends weren't watching. For now do what you can to keep LO happy while you work, if that means talking to him while you cook and he sits on the floor and bangs on pots and pans, do it. Try maybe to schedule his meal times for the same time you have to prepare your dinner. If he's good with feeding himself that is, something like cheerios that he can munch on while you cook.
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