How soon is too soon?

I'm looking for advice. I am open to ALL opinions. My husband has already started talking about the possibility of having another child. I don't think I am ready. We have talked about it, but what is your opinion? How soon after the loss of a pregnancy or infant is too soon to have another? We do want another, I just don't know if I should try or not. I am afraid of my emotions.

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Amanda HurleyFlat Rock, Michigan
    05/28/14
    Trema
    In my experience I had to push out any and all opinions. Everyone had "the right answer". and could be very blunt. ( you should definitely wait!, You NEED to start trying soon!)...
    You need to be open and honest with your spouse, be honest with yourself and your body. Do YOU feel ready? mentally, physically, emotionally? Don't let anyone pressure you into either decision. and in my case...PRAY about it!
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      05/28/14
      Melissa Middleton
      I would go with whatever you feel comfortable with. Whenever you are ready, that will be the right time. I also believe you must be emotionally ready.
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        05/28/14
        I would wait until your ready and past the grieving of your child first. You'll know because it's your choice.
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          05/28/14
          amanda
          I really think your son deserves a time for you all the grieve and get your emotions out before starting again. And I'm sure that is the reason your feeling like you are not ready. Its a scary and devastating thing losing a child and it takes time to get passed it. I know I can't compare my experience to what you are going through but I miscarried with my first pregnancy and we started trying again almost right away. As happy as we were when I did get pregnant again, I think in retrospect we should have really waited a lot longer and took the time to really sit and process what had happened to us. I feel like it was more a rush to cover up our emotions and fill a void in our lives that we couldn't handle being there. It wasn't fair to our baby that we didn't take the proper time to grieve our loss. I'm not saying we didn't grieve at all but all of a sudden it was like it never happened and we almost forgot all about it. And I feel guilty. You should follow what your heart is telling you. And your husband should be right by your side with all the patience and understanding you need right now. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope the wounds heal soon for you both.
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