Teaching manners, how do you approach this?

Most of us teach our kiddos manners such as saying please and thank you, holding doors for other people and basic table manners.

My question is do you have different expectations based on the sex of the child?

I know this is a silly question, but I live in the south so one in particular stands out to me. Men hold doors for women as a sign of politeness and respect. I know this doesn't happen only in the south, but it's a big thing here that I have noticed. It's not expected to teach your daughters this, but young men are taught to do this pretty universally.

What are your thoughts on this type of teaching? Is it good or unfair?

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    05/28/14
    I love this question actually. I don't think I've ever thought about the sex of the child coming into play.

    I think manners are a lost form and everyone needs a refresher, girl or boy, adult or child. When I was super dooper pregnant I noticed plenty of guys in their 20's that didn't even think to hold the door for me (I mean they should have whether I was pregnant or not).

    Charlie will learn to wait his turn, hold doors, say please and thank you, respect everyone, etc
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      amanda
      Both of my girls know their manners and know how to use them. In fact if my 18mth old says thank you or bless you etc she will continue to say it until you respond to it. Its super adorable when they use their manners and it makes me feel like a proud mama. But it definitely helps to accomplish this by not only telling them what they should say in certain situations and also doing it yourself so they pick it up from you as well. Like if I ask my daughter to do something I'll say "Can you please get me your cup so I can fill it?" and when she comes back with it I go "Thank you honey." and she says "You're welcome Mommy."
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        05/28/14
        amanda
        My daughters do that as well. Both of them will put their dishes in the sink when they are finished eating and my oldest will ask me if I am done and if I would like her to put my plate in the sink for me. It is so sweet and helpful.
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          05/28/14
          I have to agree with everyone, I teach all my kids to be polite. I think when they are older and a guy is around that he should be the one to open the door, however I believe girls should do it as well.
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            05/29/14
            7Malena Hall
            I would add a few. Waiting your turn in line and not pushing ahead of people. If for example a small child is going up the steps to a slide slowly or is stopped at the top ask if you can pass them don't just push by.

            This may not be manners but still...if you fimd something at the playground/school/wherever that you know is not yours leave it, or put in lost and found, the owner may come back for it. To take it is stealing.

            And a dating rule my stepdad had for his kids (I no longer lived with him at dating age). The boy is to pick the girl up at her home. Walk to the door and introduce himself to her parents (or parent). It is never ever acceptable to just honk. He would actually call the parents to see if his sons followed this rule and if not he'd make them take the girl home and go back and do it right. Stepdad was big on treating women with respect.
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