New moms, old moms?

Did you or are you having trouble with your SOS helping you with the baby or am I the only one dealing with a prick!?!?

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    05/29/14
    Men don't have the same nurturing gift women do. They just aren't built that way. Sure, there are some that are better with babies than others. My husband is getting better here and there.. He does a lot better once the kids reach at least 6 months, before that he feels like he might break them. But with the youngest he is finally comfortable with me leaving her in the bassinet downstairs asleep while I take a shower upstairs. No longer than that though. :)
    You guys need to find a way to communicate without yelling, if you need a third party there to help you figure it out then find the money and go see a counselor or a pastor. It will be the best thing you can do for your marriage.
    As a husband, he still needs just as much attention. It's hard to get the point (for me anyway) where you can balance being a wife and a mom, but if you center everything on the baby then your husband will feel neglected and in the people I know anyway will act more like a baby.. Which frustrates you and leads to fighting.
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      05/29/14
      I heard something a few years back that stuck with me when it comes to this. Moms have nine months to bond with this little person inside of us, and we do it very well since they live inside of us. Some men might be happy about the idea of a baby, but they don't really bond with an "idea", if that makes sense. We get a head start with the whole bonding thing.

      With that in mind, we can encourage them to grow that bond too but remember we have a head start in this area. Some men quickly bond and really step up to the plate. Others take a while to warm up to the idea of being a parent and everything it entails. Just keep encouraging and don't be afraid to step back and let daddy do things his way sometimes. THAT is how they bond.
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        05/29/14
        Trying to be he better person...... This is the email I sent him

        This is me putting myself I'm your shoes. From the moment I found our we were pregnant I was already in love with him. But then again he was inside me. It's not the same for men. The thing is that we became so close that I thought we were going to be a side by side the parents. Putting blame of either of us aside, you don't have any say when it comes to Dylan. I apologize for you feeling that way. I will make it a point to include you. You also have to work with and show that you care. I love you so much love for you and it hasn't faded one bit. Please know that you are very important to me, your my soulmate my best friend. But also understand that I am a mom and he needs someone to do almost everything for him. I will make it a point to show you more that you are loved and appreciated. I hope that we can move past this and become stronger as a couple, parents, and individuals.
        That we can work together as well as we do everything else together.

        Always and forever
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        About inay
        Current: Miami, Florida
        Birth: May 17
        On Moms.com since: Apr 16, 2014
        I am a first time wife, mom, and work from home. Being a mom has changed me in a good way. I do all that I can to meet my sons needs. I look forward in sharing moments, questions and all things mommy related.