Concerns

Do any of you ever worry about what your family will say if you want to expand your already large family? If the hubs and I do decide on more kids I worry I will hear it from my parents. I think more so because they are concerned it will stress me out or that I will have worse anxiety with another baby. What I dont think they understand is that a lot of my anxiety and stress has come from my birthing experiences. This VBAC opportunity has practically been handed to me on a golden platter. And that's not to say it wont end up in another CS but I feel like everything is pointing towards giving this VBAC a go. Plus I love pregnancy and motherhood so another baby is welcome no matter how the birth ends up. Im glad they are concerned for me but ultimately it our decision and I am a very emotional person and if I dont have their support I know I will get upset. Any of you other large family moms have to deal with this??? Advice???

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4Ariel LaCosteCanyon, Texas
    05/30/14
    Beth
    I don't have a particularly large family, and we are done but I can totally empathize with the feeling. My family thought we were crazy for having Hayden since all 3 of ours are so close in age, I was still nursing Audrey, and we already had a boy and a girl. I can't even imagine what they would say if we continued to expand our family. It was our decision to be finished with kids and in the end I wouldn't have cared what they said (I hate pregnancy and I'm not sure I could handle another emotionally or physically) , but I know they were very pleased we decided to stop.
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    05/30/14
    4Ariel LaCoste
    Im sorry :-( I wish everyone could be supportive of a family's decisions especially when it comes to having kids.
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      4Ariel LaCoste
      TY <3
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        05/30/14
        I never worry about what my family will say because I have a rule with them. I will not allow drama around my child and if they say or do anything other than support us then they are trying to start drama and until they stop they cannot be around my family. When we talked about it, it was done calmly as respectfully. At first they didn't like it but then my brother who's been married for ten years to my 2 1/2 put the same rules into place with his in-laws lol
        My husbands family took a little longer to come around and the only one who hasn't yet is his Mom, but she's the one who sparked the whole need for the rules anyhow.
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        05/30/14
        4Ariel LaCoste
        I like this idea :-)
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        05/30/14
        Life has enough craziness...we so don't need anymore from our families. I figure family is supposed to be there to love you and support you. I want to teach my son that, so if it takes a few ground rules then that is ok :-)
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          4Ariel LaCoste
          lol. yeah, I feel like if we have more they will express their concerns but in the end I think they would be happy. Maybe I can try to talk to my mom about it all before we give it a go and that way if it does happen they will already know
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            06/02/14
            8Theresa Gould
            Yes, we have had concerns since number 4, I think. With our last few, we didn't tell my mil until I was 6-7 months pregnant when I could no longer hide it. Since I have had so many losses both our mothers are concerned with my health for one, but mil is also concerned with the amount my husband has to work to provide for us. She doesn't even acknowledge the fact that I am working full-time (she doesn't understand how I make money from home since she worked at the library for 20+ years and before that cleaned homes) AND homeschooling the children. It's tough but it is up to you and your husband if you have any more children, don't let anyone else decide that for you.
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            06/02/14
            4Ariel LaCoste
            thank you :-) I know my parents mean well but that desire to increase our family just keeps lingering and I do think since we are the ones living this life we need to do what makes us happy. I just wish for their approval. I think they too worry about my health having had 4 CS but I hope to change that and get my VBA4C!
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            Im a stay at home mom of 4 beautiful children. I homeschool, co-sleep, breastfeed, babywear and practice attachment parenting including parenting beyond punishment. My children are my world. https://www.etsy.com/people/SketchyCrafts