need help

My bf daughter is out of control and we do not know what to do anymore. She is now attempting to hit and kick. She is talking back, attitude, lying, and has stole in the past. We need help

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    05/31/14
    How old is she?
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      05/31/14
      Beth
      Does she live with you permanently, or does she share time between you guys and her mother?
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        05/31/14
        She is 10. He has full custody but she gets supervised visitations with her mom every other sunday but mom has not been showing up.
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          05/31/14
          we have made her write sentences, grounding her, making her sit in time out, and taking things away like time to help dad working on the house repairs (which she likes doing) tv, and if she has a behavior she can not call her sister at all. Everything we try it is not working it seems to be getting worse.
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          05/31/14
          amanda
          My cousin went through this with her stepson. It was the same thing the dad has full custody and the mom is no longer involved at all(by her choice). Eventually he broke down and told them why he was acting out. He was lashing out because he doesn't understand why he can't see his mom or why she doesn't love him anymore. Its a possibility that is just the situation that the poor kid is stuck in. Doesn't mean you guys are bad parents or anything. Maybe she just can't fully understand what is going on. Maybe try taking her to a councilor? My cousins step son is like 11 or 12 so they are close in age. Usually when kids act out like that its not to be bad. There's something bothering them that they can't communicate or maybe even process themselves.
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          05/31/14
          Thanks Amanda
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          05/31/14
          amanda
          No problem
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          Born: Luray, Missouri
          Current: Council Bluffs, Iowa
          Birth: December 31
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