Sweet-tooths benefit from my crabbiness.

I'm having a tough time with mom. I think that maybe since she's around my kid I have a magnifying glass on her and that's why I'm seeing things that bother me so much. She's so negative. So so very negative and it's driving me insane.

Today at Church, 2 girls were being confirmed. They were all done up in dresses and their robes, excited and nervous and smiling. I was happy to be a part of it. Mom made a comment that one of them was really tall. I said she was wearing heels. Mom looked at her shoes (which were about 5 inches high and very glittery) and said.. "hmmf.. a teenager wearing that in Church".. and all I could think to say was. "Really? We came to Church today to judge people? Is that why I picked you up?"

I can't be nice about it with her anymore. I just shoot off my mouth. I used to be able to dampen it. I know that Charlie will be around negative people.. but it kills that one of the worst is his gramma. Even at just under 6 months old she's not allowed to hang out by herself with him because of it.

So anyway.. I realized it today. Every time people upset me I come home and bake (which explains the waist line). And today it was an apricot pecan carrot cake with cream cheese frosting.

Anyone want to start a mailing list so when I get mad ya'll can have some sweets? Can't just keep this stuff in the house! ARGH!

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    06/01/14
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    06/01/14
    I know that it's not the first time I've noticed it. But I think now it bothers me so much because I want her to be a part of my kids life. I was barely around just one set of grandparents growing up and I want it to be different for Charlie. But not if it's going to be like this. I used to let her babysit while we were out working on the rental but I don't anymore. I still take him by there a lot for her to visit but I don't leave him there like I used to. She's noticed it and she's angry about it but I refuse to be the one to bring it up. It's too fresh right now and I won't be able to be nice about it.
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    06/02/14
    I had a very serious discussion with her before I moved her up here, and many times since. Looking back I realize she's always been this way and I've caught myself many times stopping myself from acting like that. She likes to keep secrets, causes drama for no reason about petty things just to push buttons. It won't be tolerated. Not here with my kid. Just really sucks that she'll learn this the hard way.
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      06/01/14
      I clean when I get mad. Like scrubbing everything in sight. But I will take some of those sweets :-) lol Charlie will learn that one quickly...make mommy mad and I get brownies! :-) hahaha
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      Current: Chinook, Montana
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      *Site Hostess* I am a first time mom living in North Central Montana. I have a fiance, the most gorgeous baby boy, and a goofball dog named Lexi to fill up my plate :)