Breastfeeding isn't easy, give it time

Most people have heard that breastfeeding isn't easy. I know I ready over and over again that breastfeeding is difficult and painful. They said that it was painful and can be a real struggle for the first few weeks. I thought, "hey, a few weeks isn't so bad. I can handle that."

Well, I was wrong. It was bad, and Avery was actually relatively cooperative. I can't imagine how hard it could be with a preemie or a baby with a tongue-tie. Between the pain in my lady parts and the pain in my boobs I felt like a walking bruise. I was exhausted and frustrated. Avery could latch, but no matter how perfectly I tried to attach her I would wince in pain every time. My nipples cracked and bled. Oversupply and overactive let down plagued me with soaked shirts and a baby that routinely popped off just to take a breath. The idea of nursing in public was a joke to me. I surrounded myself with pillows to get the perfect position and towels to clean up my milk fountain. Every few hours I hunched over and wrestled my hungry baby into a painful ritual that was nursing. This lasted for MONTHS, not weeks.

Then, around 3 months I was nursing and... nothing hurt. I actually thought Avery had popped off or wasn't sucking because there wasn't any pain. It was funny, I was convinced that nursing wasn't working if it wasn't hurting! After that I learned to relax. Slowly I weaned myself off of the pillows, nipple shields, and towels I'd used for those early months. I learned to relax while Avery did her thing. It completely stopped hurting. Now Avery is almost a year old and has never needed formula. It was a long, hard road but I'm so glad I didn't give in.

My biggest tip is to be patient. Don't think that something is wrong or isn't working just because it hurts. You will figure it out and you are tough enough to deal with all the setbacks. Stay strong!

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    GREAT GREAT GREAT tip!! It can be SO hard and there is such a huge learning curve for both Mom and baby... but once you both figure it all out it can be really rewarding! And, at least in my experience - it's only gotten easier with each kid :)
      8Theresa Gould
      Yes, definitely give it time. It took me a few weeks with my oldest and youngest. I actually saw a lactation consultant with my youngest.
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        About Taylor
        Current: Chanhassen, Minnesota
        Birth: July 26
        On since: Dec 18, 2013
        I'm the proud mama of my daughter Avery, born on June 6, 2013. I'm 26 years old, I work from home as a graphic designer, I will be testing for my 5th degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do in 2015. My husband, Derek, and I have been happily married for 3 years.