Kid's first job - how much do you help?
Obviously I have awhile before I personally have to worry about this, but I have some friends that have older kids and they are trying to navigate their son's first job right now and it got me thinking...
Their son is 15 and they want him to have a summer job to keep him out of trouble and so he can start earning some money. He's old enough to work, but really isn't showing any drive to get any particular sort of job. As a parent, how much input and push do we need to have? They are wondering how much is too much and I really hadn't thought about it until they were talking about it. Should they be picking up applications for him and giving them to him? They had talked about taking things away (cell phone, video games, going out with friends etc) until he gets a job, but there's a big part of job hunting that's out of his control as well!
What do you think the perfect balance is? Or, if you have children that already have a job, how much input/effort did you give to get them that job?
My daughter has come to me and asked me about certain things but so far she's been the one to do everything on her own. But I think girls and boys are different. Though my husband was 13-14 when he got his first job. He was the one to ask his brother's boss for a job.
So I think there's help and then I think there's doing everything for your child. I don't think there's anything wrong with suggesting things to our children or giving them our requirements - I want you to apply to such amount of jobs by this date and I would like to see you have a summer job kind of thing.
Maybe they should ask him if he would prefer to volunteer? He is still kinda young, in my opinion.