Your teen wants birth control?

So, your teen comes to you and wants birth control. For boys this would be condoms, for girls condoms and possibly an additional method like birth control pills.

Once the shock wears off what do you do? Take them to get/purchase what they need? Refuse? Something else?

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    06/04/14
    4Santana Ferrell
    I would much rather her ask for birth control rather than becoming a teen mom
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      06/04/14
      amanda
      I would help my girls get birth control and tell my son I will cut it off if he even thinks about it lol. No I would do what ever I needed to do to keep them safe and baby free until the are ready.
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        06/04/14
        If our son was to ask, we would first talk to him about responisbility then we would make sure he has protection.
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          06/04/14
          I don't know how I feel about it yet. A part of me says no birth control because she will be taught the consequences of unprotected sex and if she still does it, like I did, and gets pregnant, then that's her own fault. On the other hand, I have a hard time feeling ok with forcing my child to grow up sooner than she should because she got pregnant. Having unprotected sex is a conscious decision and an adult one at that. Teens really need to be taught that sex is something that should be done between two committed adults, not just for the fun of it. Now, did I do that? No. I had sex as a teen. It was unprotected sometimes and it wasn't always with a boyfriend. But do I want my daughter to do better? Yes. Absolutely. I don't want her to fear it, nor do I want a stigma attached to it. It's a natural thing people do. But don't do it with every guy who says he loves you. If he really loves you, he'll respect your decision to wait. And moms with boys should teach their sons the same thing. If you really love a girl, you'll wait if she asks you to.
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            06/04/14
            I should probably answer my own question, right?

            Developmentally teenagers bodies are changing and growing. Most of them have the hormones flowing and they WANT SEX. It's crazy to me just to ignore this.

            Now, my views on sexuality may be a bit controversial. I have never thought of sex as something you hold out on because:
            1. It's wrong to have sex outside of marriage.
            2. Only girls with low self esteem have sex.
            3. Only girls who are taken advantage of have sex.
            4. Girls should make sure they are in love before having sex, because sex is only about love.
            5. It is wrong to have an attraction to another person, it means there is something dirty and shameful about you.

            I did not and do not want to raise people who as adults feel so sexually inhibited that they cannot enjoy their own sex lives. I am not saying everyone feels that way if they decide not to have sex, what I am saying is I want them to be empowered to be confident in their own sexuality. Not to see it as something to dangle in front of someone, or as something you crave from someone so you will do whatever they want. I want them to know that it's okay, it's natural and if people have shame in it that is their problem and not yours.

            So hell yes to birth control. Hands down, no questions asked.
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              06/04/14
              In my opinion being a responsible parent means doing what is best for your child no matter their age.
              I taught and practiced abstinence but understand that it is not a choice most teens make. Would I rather be the parent of a safe and responsible teenager or a Grandma?
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                06/04/14
                If my daughter asked for birth control I'd get her birth control. I feel that teenagers are going to have if they want to have sex and you can't stop. You can talk to them all you want but ultimately the choice to have sex is not your choice to make. I would much rather educate my daughter on how to practice safe sex than to just assume she's not going to have sex. I mean seriously how many of you waited until you were married to have sex for the first time??? I know I didn't lol.
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                06/04/14
                you should also educate them about the risk that involves having in protected sex one being pregnancy and also STD some off them won't go away and you can die too....also having a baby it's tough you won't have the pleasure of going out with your friends or getting a degree ur going to get a job plus teenage boys aren't ready to be dads yet
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                06/04/14
                your going to have to put a hold in your teen life to raise a baby
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                  06/04/14
                  absolutely no way
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                    06/04/14
                    Absolutely I agree Paris, that things such as STD's etc need to be discussed as well as discussing that it is perfectly ok not to be having sex, but I still feel that if a teenager wants to have sex, they are going to have sex, and if they're going to have sex I'd rather they have protected sex. At least if I'm getting the birth control for her, I know she has access to it. We can't protect our children from everything, as much as we may want to, nor can me make these types of choices for them, all we can do is educate them and let them make their choices.
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