a bit dissappointed

Well I had a talk with the VBAC doctors nurse. She sayd the Dr is comfortable with attempting a vbac after 2 prior CS.....not 4 but that I can still meet with her and discuss it further. Its a bit disappointing. Although there are a lot of VBAC friendly doctors in the area so hopefully one will work out. If it doesnt I dont know what we will do......still try for a baby and just show up in labor or what....why are doctors so afraid of VBACs! The risks are higher with RCS. Feeling a bit down now

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4Ariel LaCosteCanyon, Texas
    06/06/14
    8Theresa Gould
    I am sorry. I would be disappointed too.

    Doctors have liability issues. They are afraid and their insurance probably frowns on VBACs because of the inherent risks involved. That said, have you considered a home birth or a birth with a midwife? Midwives are usually not under the strains that doctors are and are more open. Not all but some are willing to do VBACs. I know mine does.
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    4Ariel LaCoste
    I love the idea of a midwife and homebirth but then the what if's creep into my head. WHAT IF i am that 1% that has a uterine rupture. WHAT IF i hemorrhage....WHAT IF WHAT IF WHAT IF........I wish I could just believe everything would work out. We're 20 minutes from the nearest hospital so if anything went wrong Id be in big trouble. SO this is why I am only comfortable with a hospital birth. At least for the first VBAC :-) If I had a successful VBAC one time then I think I would be fine with a home birth come the 2nd time around
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      4Ariel LaCoste
      See but thats what society has put into our head. They want people to think once a CS always a CS. It is far safer to attempt a VBAC whether its after one prior or multiple prior CS. There are very few instances where a CS is a safer option. Watch the movie Pregnant in America. It will open your eyes to how messed up the birthing system is in the US
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        4Ariel LaCoste
        I wish I believed that doctors want whats best but I can speak from first hand experience that sadly its not true. Ultimately most doctors care more about their money and things working out on their schedule than the well being of their patient. I was literally bullied into my last CS by my so trusted doctor and the hospital. I was promised a VBAC and last minute they said no. Its called the bait and switch and a lot of doctors do it sadly.
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          4Rina
          I echo what others have said. It is hard when you don't think you can get the birth experience you want. But, honestly, you are not even pregnant yet (or are you?), and you've had 4 c-sections. If I were you, I wouldn't focus on this aspect of (hopefully) child #5 and just let it go. But maybe that's just me...
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          4Ariel LaCoste
          If only it were that simple. The medical care system is the reason I never got the birth experience I wanted. THEY ROBBED me of that. THEY are robbing me of the chance to expand my family as we see fit. It shouldnt be the doctors decision what I do with my body and they certainly shouldnt bully patients, like myself, into their way. I should have a say over what happens to my body. I should never have been put in this situation in the first place but I was uneducated in the beginning of my journey to having a family. I have always wanted a lot of kids and these doctors being so eager to cut me open is the only reason I dont want more unless its a natural birth. My birth experiences were traumatic and I dont think I can go through another major surgery like a CS. I yearn for more kids and I deal with constant depression at the thought of that being taken from me
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          4Rina
          I'm sorry to hear that, Ariel. Sounds awful for you. I guess I should consider myself very fortunate that I never had to deal with a c-section or with whether the method of childbirth would constrain my family size. Still, I personally would be very nervous to have a VBAC after 4 c-sections against doctor's advice. I'm not trying to tell you what to do with your body; I'm just saying how I would feel. You have 4 children who need you, and I wouldn't risk that with a risky childbirth, whether that be another CS or an unrecommended VBAC. I know that is hard to accept, though, if you really want more kids. I wish you luck in making this decision.
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            4Ariel LaCoste
            this is exactly why I am torn. I have 4 beautiful kids and I dont want to risk leaving them without a mother. I want to just feel grateful for what I have.....a part of me will always wonder what that natural birth experience is like. It's just heartbreaking thinking that this might have all been taken from me. I love babies. I have a lot of thinking to do. Maybe I should just trust that whats meant to be will be
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