Were you allowed to date as a teen?

I'm just curious, did your parents allow you to date as a teenager?

I was raised by a single mom and she was so busy working two jobs that she just didn't seem to have the energy to worry about it. So, I dated quite a bit as a teen. I'm not saying this is good or bad, but I was a reasonably responsible teen and didn't get too carried away with boys and such.

How about you? Did you date? Will you allow your teen to date?

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    06/10/14
    4Katie
    I have a spin-off question about this topic. https://moms.com/post/323235/if-you-dated-as-a-te…
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      06/10/14
      No way for me...date and teenager was not used in the same sentence...lol
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        06/10/14
        I was allowed to date whenever I wanted but didn't until my 30's.
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          06/10/14
          I did, my mom allowed it after she met him first.
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            06/10/14
            my parents never gave me an age because they knew whatever "dating" I did was just teenage stuff and nothing to be taken seriously and I think I will be the same with my daughter. Giving her an age to start dating makes dating sound so formal, like you can start looking for a mate at 16! Lol. I will treat it with little care unless I saw it was becoming an issue. My parents never saw me "dating" as a serious thing so in turn, I never treated it very seriously. And honestly, I don't believe I would want her to think that dating is a requirement of being a teenager lol. I'd much rather her start dating after she graduates, is an adult and can make mature decisions. I wouldn't leave that up to a teenager lol. I'd much rather focus on her academics than boys.
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              06/10/14
              Jennifer
              I was heavy in school so I didn't date, my parents are strict when it came to my sister and I and I would think she wouldn't let us if we wanted to. I have three daughters so my view on it has both positive and negative views.
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                06/10/14
                Shoot nowadays teens have so many ways around dating without having to have our permission, with social media different kinds of technology easily available. We set ground rules and expect them to follow them; no dating before 16 and even then they still have to show a great deal of responsibility so 16 isn't etched in stone, we were not allowed to date much at all during the teen years it just made me sneaky my silly parentals........
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                  06/10/14
                  diane
                  I was only allowed to date boys that my parents knew personally. This for me really sucked because there were a lot of really nice guys in school. I wasn't ever allowed to have friends over. My 'approved' boyfriend could only be outside on the deck, unless he had to go potty, but then it was straight back outside. We spent lots of time swinging on the patio/deck swing.

                  Despite all of the restrictions on me, my three siblings could date who ever they wanted and they could have friends of both sexes in their rooms with the door closed. I don't know why I had so many restrictions but I hated it.

                  As far as my children are concerned; they will be allowed to date anyone they would like but we have to meet the girl/boyfriend in the beginning of the relationship. Meeting their dates will give us as parents a better idea of the date's intentions as well as allow us a chance to make it clear to the date of our expectations about appropriate behavior. (We would like to not have grandchildren before our children graduate high school.) We also get the chance to know what the planned activities are and the time our child will return home.
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                    06/11/14
                    I am not a total alien about dating but I personally didn't allow myself to date anybody during my teen age days though i have suitors, its just that I don't want any distractions in my schooling.( how devoted hehehe). I have my first boyfriend after I finished my college degree.
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                      06/11/14
                      Bethany Reilly
                      I was. My parent's were very supportive... a little too much and I ended up with a lot of hesrt break. Our children will be allowed,to date when they seem ready:)
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                        06/15/14
                        I wasn't allowed to date until I was 17. Despite that, I began dating when I was 15. A year later, my mom found out and a lot of drama ensued, but we got past it eventually.
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                        06/15/14
                        Daddy "dated" all the way back in elementary school, so his view on it is a little different from mine. I think we'll probably just play it by ear.
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                          06/15/14
                          My Dad was super strict about it. I met my hubby now when I was a freshmen in HS, I was 14, he was 15. My Dad always hated him, and would do anything he could to keep me from seeing him...but my mom understood it. My first date with him was me lying to my parents and saying i was staying over at a friends' and we went on a double date lol. But my mom took us on our "first" date( that she knew about) when i was 14. I would let Lithia date when she is about that age. I feel that if you are as strict as my dad was, it would result in sneaking out, which can lead to trouble( which, of course I didn't consider at that age).
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                            09/04/14
                            5sarah
                            I was kind of a wreckless teenager and did what I wanted mostly my foster parents were sort of free spirited. but I only had two actual boyfriends a few flings but only two boyfriends ever. I dated one for about six or 7 months and then at 17 I got with my husband and he was 34 at the time. I love the way I grew up though learning from my mistakes helps make the dessicion to not let my kids date until they're 15 or 16.
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                              12/18/14
                              I was not allowed to date until I was 17. But I was a sneaky teenager who actually starting dating when she was 15. I only date one person throughout high school (starting at the end of my freshman year, ending 7 months after I graduated). My mom found out a year after we started and tried to make me break up with him, going as far as a restraining order. When she caught me walking into prom with him, I think she got the message that I was going to do what I wanted. She wasn't happy about it at all, but she let it go. To this day, she still doesn't seem to like him, not because he was a bad kid so much as she felt disrespected by him. By the both of us. Also, he was a lot like my dad, her ex-husband. May have been another reason. They divorced when I was 6, and the woman holds a grudge like none other...
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                                12/18/14
                                Just noticed a couple of mistakes.
                                *I only dated one person
                                *She went as far as THREATENING TO GET a restraining order. She never followed through.
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