Helping someone deal with Death and mourning.

So I think Luke is just now starting to mourn his mom's death. He seems very deppressed and feels guilty for not being with her when she died. I haven't ever dealt with this before and I'm not sure what to do, do you have any pointers?
I feel so helpless and sad for him.

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06/10/14
I'm so worried for him, I'm used to death because I do hospice care when needed. But dealing with it so close to him is a total change. Thank you
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    06/10/14
    Thank you
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      06/11/14
      He was in a similar spot, he had a falling out with family about 2 weeks before and didn't see her before her passing, It will be 1 year in July so it is a fresh wound for him, I'm just hope I can be enough to help him with the grieving.
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        06/11/14
        I agree with everyone. Just listen and support whatever emotions he's having. Let him know that it's normal to be angry or sad or numb. He shouldn't feel bad about not being there when she died. A 2 week fight will never change how a mother feels about her child. She loved him through the good times and the bad and she knew that he loved her. It's the same way we know the little kid kicking and screaming "I hate you" because we didn't let them have cake for dinner still love us. They're just mad. That doesn't change no matter how old you get :)
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        06/11/14
        That is so true, I'm usually good at helping to comfort someone but last night it was just so sudden I didn't have a chance to think of it in that way. Thank you all for being so supportive.
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          06/11/14
          Unfortunately, grief is a very personal thing that doesn't have any shortcuts, and no one can shoulder it for you. Your willingness to be there and be supportive is all you can do, and it's more than enough.
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