A friend of mine asks...
...."Let me ask you ladies something. When you had your first babies (or even any of the other children) did your significant other help with anything? I mean obviously with breastfeeding you get up every 3-4 hours or so but did your SO ever get up with you or get up and get the baby for you to feed or change him? I feel like I get no help from mine, he doesn't do anything unless I beg or ask him too. I feel like I am basically a single mother. I mean I get that he works and I don't ask for much but I feel like if I am super tired one night it shouldn't turn into a fit of yelling for me to wake you up and ask you to change one diaper because I am exhausted. I would just like to know how other ladies have dealt with this or how their SO's have helped."
To which my reply was that I'm lucky to have my David. He gets up with me or even without me sometimes to help with Lucas. He's always there every step of the way and I never have to ask or beg him to do anything. I am truly blessed.
My friend wanted me to post this and get more opinions that are out there. :)
I never like it when guys say they can't get up with the baby because they have to work the next day and the mom stays home. Hello? what do you think moms do all day? I think I've only been able to take 2 naps during the day since Avery was born. I have to cook/clean/work while she's asleep and there's no way I can rest while she's awake. Being a mom is a full time job too, husbands don't get a pass just because they work outside the house.
He still has not given her a bath (9 months old now). And I do all of the feeding and putting her into bed at night. He changed diapers and helps with daytime feeds on weekends and when he comes home from work. But night time wise... all me.