A friend of mine asks...

...."Let me ask you ladies something. When you had your first babies (or even any of the other children) did your significant other help with anything? I mean obviously with breastfeeding you get up every 3-4 hours or so but did your SO ever get up with you or get up and get the baby for you to feed or change him? I feel like I get no help from mine, he doesn't do anything unless I beg or ask him too. I feel like I am basically a single mother. I mean I get that he works and I don't ask for much but I feel like if I am super tired one night it shouldn't turn into a fit of yelling for me to wake you up and ask you to change one diaper because I am exhausted. I would just like to know how other ladies have dealt with this or how their SO's have helped."

To which my reply was that I'm lucky to have my David. He gets up with me or even without me sometimes to help with Lucas. He's always there every step of the way and I never have to ask or beg him to do anything. I am truly blessed.

My friend wanted me to post this and get more opinions that are out there. :)

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        06/11/14
        Amy Phroper
        I did it by myself for the most part. If there was a night I was completely exhausted I would say something to him before I went to bed and he would let me sleep while he got up and would change a diaper and feed the baby since my kids took both breast and formula. But I would have to ask he would never do volunteer or do even do it on his own.
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          06/11/14
          we are helping each other, actually he's more knowledgeable about handling babies than me.the problem is that he is so hard to wake up during night times..haha
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            06/11/14
            The first week we were home he helped a lot more, but that's because he wasn't working. He was in esteem jobs so we had 2 full weeks all together, but now he only really helps if I'm not home and he has to do it. Or I'm a little embarrassed to say it but if I forget to do it sometimes he realizes I need a nap on his days off and will help. He was the one who actually changed the first diaper in the hospital!!
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              06/11/14
              My husband and I had an agreement from the before Avery was even born. I put the food in one end, he takes it out the other, LOL! He does basically all the diaper changes when he's home. Of course I do them all when he's at work so it ends up pretty even. We also agreed that if Avery woke up in the middle of the night he would go get her, change her if needed, and then bring her to me to nurse. I slept while he got her ready and he slept while I nursed.

              I never like it when guys say they can't get up with the baby because they have to work the next day and the mom stays home. Hello? what do you think moms do all day? I think I've only been able to take 2 naps during the day since Avery was born. I have to cook/clean/work while she's asleep and there's no way I can rest while she's awake. Being a mom is a full time job too, husbands don't get a pass just because they work outside the house.
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                06/11/14
                im a full time mom 24/7 I wake up at night to change diapers at first he did help me for the first 3 months or so but then he didn't his excuse was I need to rest because im going to work tomorrow if I don't they might fire me n he needs his job ....the. when the weekend came he wanted to rest so I ended up doing it all by myself up until I bought the lulyboo bassinet I can place it in ourbed and have the bottles filled with water and a formula container filled with the exact amount for each bottle so when feeding came I just poured and feed him ......so far it has helped alot he does help me at times and he gives me money when he can that a plus
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                  06/11/14
                  My David was afraid to hold Ellsie at first since she was so tiny. The nurses in the hospital were there to help us the first three weeks and I don't think either of us changed her diaper until after the first week. We didn't even do the cord care. David changed her first diaper though... but after we brought her home... everything was me at night during the week. During the weekends I still did the late night/early morning feedings but then he would let me sleep in.

                  He still has not given her a bath (9 months old now). And I do all of the feeding and putting her into bed at night. He changed diapers and helps with daytime feeds on weekends and when he comes home from work. But night time wise... all me.
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                    06/11/14
                    My husband did not mind, never saying no to my asking him to help but I did sense a bit of jealousy from him and that was just too d--- bad once he got lost when Noah had one of his massive sh--s, I hid the cords to his video game Yes ladies the man-child had a video game Un-Un I'm not the one!
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                      06/12/14
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                      06/12/14
                      wow I should follow ur example thanks for sharing =)
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