I can't be the only one...

I like to think that I have things in check. I have as much of a routine as my 6 month old will allow, my home is clean, my relationship is solid, my child is happy and healthy. I am not a robot, nor an emotional mess. I am happy with my life's decisions. I love my child, my boyfriend, my dog and guinea pig, my family.

So why. Someone tell me why that at 34 years old, it all completely falls apart during my period? Inconsolable. Emotional basketcase. Impossible girlfriend. Crying for 4 days straight. Either eating everything in sight or not a thing for days. Questioning every decision I've ever made. Dramatic? You bet! That's the problem. So why?

I've heard that there are some birth control pills that can help this but I'm not a fan of pills and messing with things like that.

Advice?

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    4Rina
    Oh God, I am terrified of menopause. Still a while to go (I hope!) as I'm 38, but still...does not seem appealing to me at all! Since your youngest is less than 3, are you hitting menopause early?
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    4Rina
    Ugh!!
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      4Rina
      That is tough. I wish I had some advice to give, but I am not all that horrible when I have my period. I mean, I do eat more in the lead-in and I do have some slightly more bitchy tendencies, but overall not much of a change. Good luck! (Or maybe I should pass on that message to your boyfriend :-) )
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        06/11/14
        It's like I'm pregnant again. I don't feel hopeless or suicidal or anything like that. I just cry. A lot. I shut down completely and don't communicate with him at all, but really that's only because he tends to say things that I take the wrong way and I cry more.

        He thought I was upset because we aren't pregnant. Instead of trying to explain that that's not why I'm crying, I say "That's not it. It's a good thing I'm not." How insensitive can I be? And I didn't mean it like that, I just meant that it's a good thing because at 6 months post partum, a pregnancy could be unsafe.

        Ugh. It's only a few days and I'll be right back up again. I just hate it. Thanks ladies, it feels good to come here off shift and just unload.
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          06/12/14
          Oh Alissa, I know this sucks. I do the eat everything in sight and question all of my decisions too around that time of the month. Some months are better than others but the bad ones really suck.

          The medication I take for my fibromyalgia is an anti depressant. I was kind of pissed that I got an anti depressant for a pain issue but it's supposed to help with both. It does, honestly. I'm not suggesting this is what you do, I wouldn't suggest an anti depressant to anyone that doesn't truly need it because they do have very real side effects. My point is, you should bring this up to your doctor and discuss a way to deal with this that works for you. If it's wanting advice about more holistic/natural remedies your doctor should be able to guide you in the right direction.
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            06/12/14
            I feel like every few months since I had my son, it as if my hormones go through another adjustment. I cried at a commercial the other day and I NEVER cry over the TV. Lol for a few days every month the world closes in around me and everything is overwhelming. For me I think it's because it is a reminder that no matter how much I am in control of my home or my life...there will always be this thing that I can't control. This monthly visit that I hope comes and then hope goes away. I know my emotions will be crazy and I will have minimal if any control and that worries me and then makes my whole world feel like it's crashing! Whew! Lol
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            About Alissa
            Current: Chinook, Montana
            Birth: September 17
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            *Site Hostess* I am a first time mom living in North Central Montana. I have a fiance, the most gorgeous baby boy, and a goofball dog named Lexi to fill up my plate :)